'AITA for being furious with my fiancee after she lied to me about being infertile and got pregnant?'
The decision to have a child in a relationship is most of the time mutual and a couple only plans for one when they feel they are ready. However, if one partner lies about their fertility during the relationship, it could end up affecting their bond badly.
Recently, a man on Reddit's popular "Am I the A*****e" forum shared an incident where he asked his fiancee to leave the house after she got pregnant and lied to him about being infertile.
Man finds out his fiancee is pregnant and lied about her infertility
The 33-year-old man wrote on the AITA forum that he and his fiancee (30F) have been together for four years and engaged for a year. He mentioned that early in their relationship, she told him she was infertile due to a medical condition during her teens. He added that he was fine with this as he had never really wanted biological children and figured they could explore adoption if they ever changed their minds.
He wrote, "Fast forward to last week. I came home to a positive pregnancy test sitting on the bathroom counter. At first, I thought she might’ve been helping a friend, but when I confronted her, she broke down and admitted she’s not infertile. She never was. Apparently, she lied because she thought I’d leave her if I knew she could have kids, since she knew I didn’t want them."
He explained that she told him that she stopped taking birth control "a few months ago" without telling him because she wanted to see if he would change his mind about fatherhood if it "just happened."
Man asks fiancee to leave the house for lying about being infertile
The man added that he was furious and told her this was a massive betrayal. He said that he feels like his trust in her is shattered. She argued that she did it because she loved him and wanted them to have a deeper connection through a family. He added that he told her he needed space and asked her to leave the house.
He wrote on the forum, "Now she’s staying with her sister and texting me nonstop, saying I’m overreacting and being cruel by 'kicking out the mother of my child'. Her family is also chiming in, calling me a deadbeat dad for 'abandoning her' during pregnancy."
He concluded the post, "I’m struggling because I never wanted kids, but now one is on the way, and I feel trapped. At the same time, I can’t get over the fact that she lied to me for years and manipulated me into this situation. AITA for asking her to leave, or am I justified in needing time to process this betrayal?"
Internet sides with the man felt betrayed by his fiancee
Many people on the internet sided with the man who made the post about asking his fiancee to leave the house after she got pregnant and lied to him about being infertile.
A Reddit user commented on the post, "NTA. Cancel the engagement, show her the door out and get a lawyer."
Another person mentioned, "NTA. wtf? This is SO wrong on so many levels. She’s baby trapping you and gaslighting you. You never wanted kids and made that clear. Not only did she lie abt being infertile, she lied abt still being on birth control. Leave her."
One person wrote, "NTA. Change the locks. Get a lawyer. Keep all texts from her and her family, especially if she says anything about lying to you. Have as much documentation as possible for your lawyer. Cancel the engagement. She baby-trapped you."
Another remarked, "This is a huge betrayal. And she just showed you who she really is. A liar. A manipulator. And so selfish that she forced you into a situation she knew you didn't want. Insecurity is no excuse. And you can never trust her again. Sorry man."
One individual added, "NTA, anyone in their right mind would be pissed. She's a manipulative liar, she did you dirty, and she knows it...plus, she has an 18+ year long payday that will pop out of her in the near future."
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