'AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend after he had a violent outburst over my comment on abortion?'

A 23-year-old woman, who goes by Electrical_Youth_283 on Reddit, recently shared her unsettling experience with her 24-year-old boyfriend.

She recounted how a casual comment about abortion led to a violent outburst from her boyfriend, ultimately prompting her to break up with him. The post has sparked a wide range of reactions, with many supporting her decision to end the relationship due to safety concerns.

Woman breaks up with boyfriend after violent outburst over abortion comment

The woman clarified that her boyfriend is not anti-abortion and is, in fact, pro-choice, but had become somewhat controlling in their relationship.

One week before her post, she visited his place, and after a night together, she casually mentioned that she was glad to be on birth control. She then stated that if she got pregnant, she would likely choose to have an abortion because she wasn’t ready to become a mother.

She wrote, "As we were falling asleep, I mumbled something to him about how I was glad I was on the pill and that if I got pregnant, I'd probably get an abortion because I wasn't ready to be a mother."

Although the comment was not meant to provoke a big reaction, it led to her boyfriend exploding in anger. "He blew up at me," she explained, "His eyes widened and he stood up and started yelling. He's a lot taller than I am, so I got really scared he was going to hurt me."

Fearing for her safety, she managed to calm him down by claiming she was tired and didn’t know what she was saying, but the tension remained. After ensuring he was asleep, she gathered her things and left in a hurry. She wrote, “I grabbed all of my stuff and got the hell out of there.”

Back at her apartment, she was still shaken, and around noon the next day, he began pounding on her door, demanding to talk. She was so concerned about his behavior that she called a friend to check if his car was still in the parking lot, fearing he might be waiting for her outside.

The woman then fled to her parents’ house, which her boyfriend didn’t know the address of, seeking refuge. Despite telling him it was over and expressing that she couldn’t stay with someone she was afraid of, her boyfriend continued to bombard her with texts and calls, ranging from tearful pleas to angry insults.

She said she had not responded to any of his messages except for a few one-word replies, informing him that their relationship was finished. "I simply told him that we were over and that I couldn't be with someone who I felt afraid of," she explained.

Reddit users support woman’s decision to break up after boyfriend’s violent outburst

The woman sought validation for her actions, asking Reddit users, “AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend over this?” Many commenters supported her decision, with numerous people urging her not to block him.

A user said, "The subject of this doesn't even matter. He showed you a part of him that he has been hiding. And you noped out of that at the first appearance. Good for you. Don't block him. He may send a threat and you can get a restraining order then if needed."

Another added, "100%, you're right! His reaction shows a whole different side of him, and you did the right thing by getting out when you did. Trust your instincts, they're telling you all you need to know. And honestly, not blocking him yet could give you leverage if things escalate. Keep protecting yourself."

A third commentator remarked, "If he does send a threat, at least you’ll have an entertaining story for the restraining order paperwork. Just remember to keep your sense of humor; it’s the best defense against weirdos!"

"NTA he seems incredibly unstable and very possibly dangerous, definitely the right decision to end the relationship, just be very vigilant and stay safe!! As for the actual conversation, you also weren't in the wrong there and I'd strongly question whether he's actually pro-choice," said one supporting the OP.

A person said, "NTA.. no he doesn’t seem like he is pro choice though.. interesting that you also mention he is controlling.. keep the relationship ended… what you need to do next is inform him that he needs to stop calling you and texting you.. it becomes harassment if he continues to call and text you after that".

Another added, "NTA !! You did the right thing. He seems aggressive and you should not be with him."

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