'AITA for confronting my fiance after discovering my engagement ring was fake?'

A woman took to Reddit’s 'Am I The A****le' (AITA) forum to share the hurt and betrayal that resulted from receiving a fake engagement ring from her fiance. The woman was shocked when she took the apparent fake ring to the jewelry store to get it sized where she was denied entry, per Someecards.

The now-deleted post garnered significant attention with over 6.5k upvotes and over 1500 comments where the original poster (OP), under the username 'thrwawaythrow,' detailed how she was ecstatic over her Tiffany and Co ring, only to later find out that it was fake!

The OP was denied entry to jewelry store for trying to get fake ring sized

In the post titled "AITA for confronting my fiance after I was turned away from the jewelry store for having a fake ring when trying to have it sized?" the OP detailed how she came to know about her fake engagement ring, beginning, "My fiance proposed on Christmas and everything was perfect."

However, the ring was a little too large, and since the woman recently reached her target weight (she was trying to lose weight), she thought she would get it sized appropriately. "I’ve been holding off because I wanted to make sure I was the correct size after losing the weight," she noted.

The OP continued to share her excitement and wrote, "The ring box says Tiffany and Co and I was literally over the moon with it. I told him he shouldn’t have spent this much on me but he said he wanted to get me the blue box."

"I go into Tiffany’s to have it sized because my friend told me I should only have them work on my ring. They take the ring and ask for my fiance’s info to look up in their system," she said.

However, she took the ring in the back after they were unable to locate it. A short while later, the manager returned and informed her that it was not a Tiffany and Co ring, pointing out that it had no engraving.

The OP added that her first assumption was that her fiance was duped and likely purchased it used. "He comes home from work and I ask him where he got the ring from," she said.

The OP confronted her fiance over engagement ring

The woman detailed that she asked her fiance directly if he got it used online and he said that it was acceptable if he did. "He flipped out and said no it’s new from the store. I fessed up and told him what happened with the sizing," she explained.

Her fiance lost it and accused the OP of spying on him to find out the price and other details. She noted, "I was firm and said no I just wanted it resized and they told me it’s not from their company. He said that they’re wrong and he got it there."

He said it feels like the OP was "going behind his back" and "should have consulted him and he would have had it sized" for her. 

"I’m confused by this because I thought it was a simple task that I didn’t need him for. Anyway, he won’t really talk about where he got the ring and is only saying that he will size it and took the ring," the OP added.

OP later shared an update over fake engagement ring from her fiance

The woman later shared an update on the aforementioned situation by saying, "First of all, thanks to everyone who commented on my original post and for the help."

"I’ve had an overwhelming amount of messages that I can’t reply to at the moment, but I appreciate everyone caring enough that they wanted an update."

"I am still staying in a hotel, I don’t have any close friends or family nearby and I’ve met with a lawyer to help me sell my half of our house," the OP added.

The OP shared that her fiance decided the relationship was doomed because she "aired our dirty laundry on the internet and it got popular with the media," before adding, "I’ll be leaving my job in a week to move back home with my family."

Although this had put her in a difficult financial situation, the OP noted that she was glad her ex ended their relationship because perhaps she was too timid to continue.

"The ring was just a symptom of the problem. I guess you don’t want to financially commit to an expensive ring when you know in your heart that the person doesn’t mean all that much to you," the woman shared.

OP provided further updates on the ring

Sharing further detailed updates on the ring, the OP said, "I know this is wrong but I checked his tablet this morning when he went to work to see if I can find any information."

"His amazon was still logged in and found my ring on there, actually 2 of them. The first one was bought December 2nd and then another one a size smaller last night," she said.

Being shocked by his purchase, the OP added, "Not that it’s not a Tiffany ring but that he was playing me with a $6 ring."

"After he purchased a mini bar and an OLED TV for himself on Black Friday. I can’t believe I went into Tiffany’s with a $5 rip off. I’m mortified," she exclaimed.

After confronting her fiance over the shocking details, the OP explained, "He started crying saying that he felt like he needed to get me the best but he couldn’t afford it."

She continued: "I said but you could afford the 3k on your stuff. He said the smallest Tiffany ring is at least 5k which i doubt is true I’m sure there’s cheaper but whatever and that he just wanted to get me a stand in until he saved up. I told him I didn’t even need the Tiffany ring."

"That he could have bought a $200 14k gold band at Macy’s. Instead he spent money on a box and two fake rings," she noted.

The man then admitted that he received the box from a friend who proposed to him years prior with a Tiffany ring, and that the "wife doesn’t need the boxes."

"I hung up. I texted him I need some space and time and I’m going to go stay at a hotel to just chill for a day," the OP concluded her lengthy ring update.

Redditors back woman for confronting her fiance over fake engagement ring

Online users supported the woman who confronted her fiance about a phony engagement ring with one saying in part, "NTA and put the wedding plans on hold until he comes clean. It’s one thing to screw up and accidentally buy a fake. It’s another thing for him to..."

A second Redditor added, "NTA. You shouldn’t have to “fess up” for trying to resize your ring. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to make a ring you love the size you wanted. It seems like he’s overreacting and hiding something by being so secretive about it."

"NTA. Your fiance bought you a fake and is doubling down on his deception. This may be an issue of embarrassment he can’t give you the fanciest jewelry, and otherwise he’s a great guy who made a stupid mistake and doesn’t want to fess up. But really look at if this pattern shows up anywhere else. This is a big deal to lie about and then not come clean. Red flags, OP," remarked one.

Another added, "NTA. Red flag parade for sure. Do you still have the ring? Can you get it appraised? Not that he’ll admit he got a fake even if you have that evidence I guess..."

"NTA but seriously reconsider marrying this man. He is a liar, a gaslighter, a scammer, a manipulator and cheap," blatantly remarked one.

"NTA he made at you because he is lying to you and got found out. I'm not a fancy ring person but this is a symbol of your love and relationship if he wanted to get a cheaper ring fine it's the lying and playing games. You can't trust this guy. He lying about other things too this is a huge red flag. He had to go out of his way to get the box," said one.

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