‘AITA for contemplating divorce due to my husband’s relentless remarks about my looks?’

A heartbroken wife turned to Reddit’s 'Am I The A**hole' forum for advice after her husband’s increasingly cruel comments about her appearance were pushing her to the brink of ending their marriage.

She titled her post: “AITAH for considering divorce over my husband’s constant comments about my face??”

Husband wants wife to look young again

Opening up about her situation, the woman explained: “Since I turned 36, my husband has started making comments about my face, specifically about the wrinkles and how I’m ‘starting to age.’ At first, I thought it was just a one-off thing, but it’s becoming more frequent. He even suggested I should get Botox to ‘improve my appearance’ and ‘look younger.’”

Despite her husband’s remarks, she firmly stood her ground: “I told him I’m not interested because I don’t mind aging at all. I don’t feel the need to alter my face to please anyone. And I don’t even have many wrinkles, just nasolabial folds, and some forehead lines, but he seems to want my face to look as if it were 20—that’s ridiculous.”

Her dilemma, however, wasn’t just about her self-esteem. The couple shares a daughter, and the OP worried about the long-term impact on her child if she divorced her husband.

“This is making me uncomfortable, and I’m seriously considering divorce, but I don’t want my daughter to grow up without a father. I went through that, and I don’t want her to experience the same," she concluded, before asking: "AITAH for considering divorce because of these comments? Am I overreacting??”

Reddit weighs in as OP contemplates divorce over husband's disparaging comments

Redditors were overwhelmingly supportive of the OP, with many pointing out how toxic her husband’s behavior was.

“One, aging lines and spots just mean you have lived a long, happy life. And two, sometimes it’s better to grow up without a father than to grow up with parents that hate each other," one insisted.

Another got straight to the point: “NTA. Divorce him. Dude wants to date a teen, let him. I bet he won’t get the play he thinks he will. Aging is beautiful. Don’t let anyone make you feel like it isn’t. And don’t let your daughter be around that so she gets it in her head at a young age that looks matter that much.”

A third noted that leaving her husband didn’t mean her daughter would grow up without a father: “Your daughter would not grow up without a father as you did. She would grow up with a father who co-parents from another residence. Do you want your daughter to grow up thinking it’s okay for a man to criticize his wife like this? This is what she’ll experience if you don’t put a stop to it one way or another. NTA.”

Someone else pointed out the deeper implications of the husband’s remarks: “NTA. His comments are disrespectful and completely out of touch and honestly will only get worse. As you have a daughter, it’s important for you to set the standard of what she should accept and reject treatment-wise from the men in her life. Hearing comments like these, even if they aren’t directed at her, can be extremely harmful.”

Others speculated that the husband’s comments might be a cover for something more sinister.

“NTA, but is he having an affair? Maybe he’s angling for a divorce? If the comments are bothering you, throw them back at him. Suggest his and hers treatments since he’s looking a bit worn himself. Or point out new liposuction body sculpting to help those men who can’t quite achieve a six-pack. He’ll either wise up and shut up or give you the reason for that divorce," a comment read.

“NTA, but if you’re considering divorce over this one issue, I suspect there is way more that’s happened leading up to this. No one should get any procedure done just because their spouse wants them to, but it sounds like you already know that. Just stick to your guns on this one. Tell him that no is your final answer and you do not want the subject brought up again in any way, shape, or form," another offered.

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