'AITA for divorcing my wife after she racked up massive debt again?'

A Redditor shared his frustration after discovering his wife’s secretive spending habits and hidden bills. The 34-year-old man, who met his wife five years ago, had helped her pay off $60,000 in debt, clearing her financial slate.

For two years, they enjoyed a debt-free life, but things took a shocking turn when he uncovered that she had racked up another massive debt, using seven different credit cards, one of which was in his name. Devastated by the betrayal, he filed for divorce, however, Redditors have plenty to say about his tough choice.

Man decides to divorce wife after she goes into massive debt again

In a post on the AmItheA*****e forum, a Reddit user with the handle Old-Donkey8984 shared his story, asking, "AITAH for divorcing my wife after she went into massive debt again?"

The man, 34, explained, "I (34M) met my wife (32F) 5 years ago. She was $60K in debt from credit cards, personal loans, etc. A while ago after we got serious, I helped her get a consolidation loan from consumer credit card relief. I actually paid it all off on her behalf through them. Monthly payments, the whole deal."

He added, "Things were great for about two years. We got married, bought a house, life was good."

However, things began to change when the man started noticing packages arriving daily. The man learned, "She got secretive about the mail. Bills were being hidden. When I finally confronted her, turns out she'd racked up another $45K in debt across 7 different cards."

"I was devastated," he shared. "We tried counseling (financial and marriage), but she kept spending behind my back. She even opened a card in MY name."

Feeling betrayed, he filed for divorce last month. The post ended with the question, "Now her family is blowing up my phone saying I'm an asshole for abandoning her 'when she needs help most.' AITAH for walking away? I feel like I tried everything, and she repeatedly betrayed my trust."

Redditors share their opinion

Upon hearing about the man's conflict with his wife, who once again pressured him to resolve the overwhelming debt, several Redditors quickly weighed in, offering their support for his decision to leave her.

One user declared, "NTA, you're not a bank, and financial stresses especially in this day and age are tough enough without having a lying, deceitful wife adding too it."

Another added, "She has a problem and is dragging you down with her. You will never have financial stability while married to her. Divorce, split the debt, and never marry again unless you have 100% clarity on her financial intelligence as well as a pre-nup. Edit: NTA." 

A person wrote, "Not only does she have a compulsion to overspend, she committed identity theft. She is a CRIMINAL. NTA. Depending on where you live, you may be held responsible for some of those debts, especially the one in your name (unless you report her to the police)." 

A Redditor commented, "NTA.. You can't help her anymore and also the fact she did that under your name shows her true intentions. Run!"

A Reddit user suggested, "What an insane succubus. Total vampire. Run for your life dude. I hope you can ensure they can’t come after you for that debt. At least she has family so she’s not entirely destitute. She has to suffer the consequences, don’t feel guilty."

Someone else shared, "NTA - Her family can help her pay her debt. Hopefully, nothing hits the home you bought."

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