'AITA for ending the relationship with my sister who gave me a kidney?'
A heartbroken 39-year-old man took to Reddit’s 'Am I The A**hole' (AITA) forum to get other Redditors’ views after being treated as “a doormat” by his elder sister, who donated him a kidney.
Beginning his story, the Original Poster (OP), under the username kcasekim, shared, “I am the younger sibling. At 18, I needed a kidney and my sister, 8 years older, donated one.”
Man says his sister constantly reminds him of donation
He also stated that the donation “came with an asterisk; an unspoken rule for me to be a doormat for the rest of my life. Before the transplant even happened, the offer was taken back during a disagreement. After the surgery, she made a point to remind me constantly.”
The man further explained that his sister has always been “too comfortable dishing it but if the tables turn, the crying and screaming starts followed by storming out. Unfriending/blocking me comes next.”
OP reveals his sister ‘prevents’ him from meeting his niece and nephew
He also revealed that even twenty years after the surgery, his sister has not changed and is now “blackmailing me and preventing me from seeing my niece and nephew.”
The man elaborated, “The new twisted form of cruelty started when my nephew was born—after driving 6 hours in snow to see him, and getting yelled at for not giving a precise schedule of my arrival, I reminded her that I took time off from work to be there. That got me banned from seeing either of the kids. When I lost my job and the behind-the-back ridiculing began, I called her out.”
He also shared that during last Christmas when he went to meet his niece and nephew and asked his niece to give him a hug, his sister intervened.
“My sister told her she didn’t have to hug anyone she didn’t want to hug (am I really just anyone!?). Neither of them wanted to play or open my gifts and when their dad made them open them, the look on my niece's face was one of disgust. This was the face of a girl who’s been brainwashed,” the Reddit user mentioned.
Man claims to receive no support from his parents
Recently he was told that neither his niece nor his nephew would open their birthday gifts until he visited.
He said, “I told her I wasn’t going to rush back after the last visit and that I was taking a break after being the only one to make the trek (15 times in the last 3 years). I told her I was sick of being blackmailed and guilty for not dropping everything to see them at her request.”
Now, the man has been banned “from ever seeing her family again because of my ‘pathetic grudge against kids’,” just because he refused to visit them.
The man also disclosed that their parents are not doing anything to support him and instead just saying that he and his sister should “just get along.”
“I really wish they would stand in solidarity with me but their complacency kind of has me angry, pissed, and reluctant to be around any of them,” he added.
Reddit users ask OP to ‘walk away’ from his sister
Other Redditors supported the man as one said, “NTA. Unfortunately you just need to let the kids go. This is too toxic to keep trying to make work.”
Another user commented, “NTA using children as pawns is bottom tier humanity. One day the kids will be old enough to fully think for themselves and will reach out for you.”
“NTA Just be thankful that your sister's personality didn't come along with the kidney she donated to you,” one user stated.
A person wrote, “NTA. I’m sorry but you have to let your niblings go. I had to let mine go and while I miss them, my life is SO much more peaceful without my sister.”
Another person shared, “NTA. Radioactive and toxic. They are like Ground Zero. Stay away to allow yourself to heal from their poison.”
“NTA. You're not gonna win here; your claim of brainwashing sounds accurate. Walk away and live your best life!” a comment read.
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