‘AITA for kicking struggling brother and his pregnant GF out of my home for disrespecting my husband?’

A 28-year-old woman who kicked out her brother, 24, and his pregnant girlfriend from her house for being disrespectful toward her husband has received immense support on Reddit's popular 'Am I the A*****e' (AITA) forum.

On the 'Am I the A**hole' subreddit, the Original Poster (OP) earned over 3,900 upvotes and 390 comments for a post titled, "AITA for kicking out my brother and his pregnant girlfriend out of my house?"

Woman shares how his brother 'was treated better than my older sister and me growing up'

In the post, throwawayRA890384 said that her 24-year-old brother is the only son in their family and "in an Asian family, it’s basically a given that he was treated better than my older sister and me growing up".

Their father died before her brother's high school graduation. Since their father had paid for her and her sister's tuition until they graduated, their "beloved" mother thought it would be a good idea to make her and her sister pay for their brother's college tuition.

Sharing her story, the OP said: "Now, I’m married. I proposed to this beautiful man (28M) I’ve known since middle school after he got into a terrible accident that caused him to lose almost all of his motor skills."

"He was in a coma for about two weeks, and I swore that if he woke up, I’d marry him... He also lost his job because of the accident, but he still has income from his investments, and his parents gifted him one of their property to rent out afterward. Yes, his parent is Loaded with capital L," she added.

Woman shares how her brother and his GF were disrespectful toward her husband

Talking about her brother, the OP shared that his brother was looking for a job after graduation, while his girlfriend "got pregnant by accident".

"He started a business right after college, but yeah… you probably know how that goes. It failed, after he spent almost all the money our father left to us (his three children) as inheritance," the OP shared.

She added, "That caused a rift between him and my oldest sister. I don’t blame my sister for being furious because he also spent her share of the inheritance after paying his tuition."

Moreover, he and their mother don't get along very well due to the unintended pregnancy. "She’s not exactly against his girlfriend, but she’s not thrilled either," the OP said.

"However, he's still the golden child and that’s why she asked me, her newlywed daughter, to let my brother and his girlfriend stay in our house until he finds a job," she continued.

The OP's husband, "being the absolute angel he is", stated that he would try to repair one of his homes because the ones he now owns "aren’t exactly suitable for long-term living with a baby". In the meantime, they could stay in their house in the guest room they had upstairs.

The breaking point came during Chinese New Year when her mother and oldest sister came to visit. "My husband went all out with his cooking. I cleaned the entire house and prepared the other guest room for my family," the OP said.

"That’s when I realized the second floor hadn’t been vacuumed in ages. My brother and his girlfriend didn’t come out of their room until my family arrived," she wrote.

They went down to dine after exchanging greetings and "gave my mother her New Year’s bow". At one point, the brother, "with confidence straight out of his colon", declared that it was time for the OP's husband to find a "real job" again because "he can walk now".

He also mentioned how young he himself was, yet was trying very hard to get a job.

Then, insisting that he had no intention to offend, the brother told her husband that cooking was a strange pastime for a tall guy (6'3") like him and that he "doesn’t really have the talent for it".

"His girlfriend chimed in, saying she feels like my husband is “more feminine” than she is because he takes care of the house and cooks better than she does," the OP said.

The girlfriend added that she and the OP's brother frequently ask the husband why he remained at home after years of his accident and warned that the OP would abandon him if he continued to be "cooped up in the house".

Being offended, the OP said, "I think even my brother realized she’d messed up because he quickly backpedaled, saying it was only “once or twice". I just stood up, took both their plates, and told them to pack up and leave. I couldn’t even look at my husband. I was so pissed and ashamed of them."

"I even handed them my car keys because I just wanted them gone. They left with my oldest sister after giving my husband a half-hearted apology," she added.

Her older sister later supported her decision but her mother said she was a tad too harsh.

"My mother later told me their words weren’t a “good enough reason” to kick out my “struggling brother and PREGNANT girlfriend” (she really emphasized the pregnant part). She said I could’ve just scolded him like I did over the dishes," said the OP.

Still "pissed off" with her brother and his girlfriend's behavior, the OP was "second-guessing" herself and sought advice from the online forum "because even my husband was so chill about it".

Reddit community did not hold back from supporting OP

Reddit users flocked to the comment section to express their ardent support for the OP for "standing up for your husband".

One wrote, "NTA, good for you for standing up for your husband and hopefully, teaching your ungrateful and lazy brother and his gf a lesson. They need to step it up since they chose to be irresponsible and get pregnant. I can’t believe their audacity to say such things at your house where they were living for free!"

A second user added, "Bro & gf were clearly projecting their insecurities but it worked out perfectly bcuz they were going to get kicked out eventually anyway. This way OP spared her/husband more months of arguments with dirty food thieves. NTA."

"NTA. Your brother stole inheritance. He’s a thief. He’s a lazy AH who knocked up his girlfriend, doesn’t work, is disrespectful of your home and husband when he’s staying for free and being a horrible guest! You were too kind and let it go for far too long. You weren’t too harsh. Actions/words have consequences. Never lift a finger for your brother ever again. He’s entitled because your mother especially but you’ve all been enablers," a third user seethed.

Another remarked, "NTA, let your mother house them if she's so concerned. They would not be welcomed even as guests in my home again if they pulled that on me."

One commented, "NTA. They bit the hand that fed them, then had the audacity to ask for seconds. Your brother and his girlfriend couldn’t even handle basic chores but had plenty of energy to insult your husband. Kicking them out wasn’t harsh.. it was overdue."

Another added, "NTA. The blatant disrespect they've shown you, your husband, and your home that you've opened up to them is epic. They're lucky you didn't kick their a**es to the curb sooner."

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