'AITA for leaving a date after she was 30 minutes late with no communication?'

The internet is overwhelmingly bashing a man who left a date after his date failed to show up on time and didn’t communicate about her getting late.

The situation was shared on Reddit's popular ‘Am I The A*****e’ forum, and it quickly sparked a heated debate, earning hundreds of upvotes and hundreds of comments.

Reddit user walks out of date when woman didn't respond

In the Reddit post titled “AITA for leaving a date when she didn’t respond?” OP starts by explaining the background of the situation, "I matched with this lady on a dating app two weeks before Christmas. We chatted and really seemed to get along. We planned the first date, and the date went pretty well. We had similar interests, had the same ish beliefs and both discussed how important communication is."

The conversation continued online, and they agreed to meet for a second date two weeks later. OP says, "From there she asked me to go out on a second date with her in two weeks as we were both busy. We continued to talk. Sometimes my reply’s would be spaced out by a few hours due to being busy. Her reply’s were always 12-24 hours apart, no biggie I didn’t mind. She texted me the night before to make sure we were still going, and I told her that I would be there."

OP continues, "I texted her as I was leaving that I would be there at 5, to which she immediately replied with something along the lines of “wait have you already left? I didn’t know we were meeting there first.” So I turned around as I wasn’t even 5 minutes down the road. Told her I hadn’t left, and thought that we were meeting there. But was open to other things. She said no meeting there is perfect and that she just left and would be a few minutes late."

However, when OP arrived at 5:02 p.m., there was still no sign of her. "I got there at 5:02 and waited for her to text me when she got there. At 5:15 I sent a text to let her know I was there, thinking she was waiting for me to text her. At 5:25 I called my friend and asked her advice on if I should wait anymore because she hadn’t texted or called to say she was running extra late. They said no, so at 5:30 I called a buddy nearby and asked if he wanted to grab dinner since I was in town. As I was driving to pick them up she texted me at 5:33 saying “Just got here, sorry.”

At this point, OP had already decided to leave, "I’m already a few miles from where we were set to meet. I responded with “Sorry I just saw this, but I already left. I hadn’t heard anything so figured you weren’t coming” I already left and wasn’t willing to turn back around. I’m fine with someone being late but they need to communicate it if they’re more than five minutes late. It put a bad taste in my mouth, especially since she told me serval times how important communication is."

Her response came five minutes later, "Oh okay, sorry," which OP read but didn’t reply to. Then, 10 minutes after that, she texted again, saying, "So I get that I was late, bad on my part, but I wouldn’t have lied about showing up. We’re both pretty busy, so maybe we just stop seeing each other."

So, "AITA for leaving a date when they hadn’t shown up 30 minutes later without any communication for them to get there a few minutes after I left."

Internet smashes man who left date after woman failed to communicate about being late

The internet has been buzzing with reactions after a man left his date due to her not communicating about being late, with the consensus largely leaning towards criticism of his actions.

One user wrote, "Also, if she was driving, how is she supposed to text (legally) if she ran into traffic or something? Why not actually call her, and possibly get a response? I don't get this guy. YTA, OP."

Another said, "Bro she was driving. I don't text and drive either."

Others took the opportunity to criticize the man's behavior, questioning why he bothered asking for opinions if he was unwilling to accept them.

One commenter stated, "Why are you bothering to ask if YTA if you're not going to accept the verdict and just argue with everyone? Yes, YTA."

One wrote, "Mate, you ditched your date over 20’ish minutes. That’s strange," while another simply stated, "YTA. For someone who claims to put such a high premium on communication, it’s whack that you ghosted her."

One user argued, "NTA. A couple of minutes late can be up to 15 minutes. 30 minutes late, and they need to let you know they will be 30 minutes late."

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