'AITA for making my wife apologize to my ex-wife after she bullied her over cancer?'

The internet is firmly backing a man who made his wife apologize after she publicly mocked his ex-wife, who is battling cancer and upset their children.

The Reddit post titled “AITA for embarrassing my wife?” has sparked a buzz among users, with thousands of upvotes and heated debates in the comments.

Man pressures current wife to apologize for bullying ex-wife

In the post, OP explained his complex family dynamics, "I have 2 twins, castella and freya with my ex wife. My ex wife Mariana and I were married for a long time, we divorced a while ago and I remarried 2 years ago."

OP continued, "My wife Ava does not like my ex. I told her from the beginning me and my ex wife are not rivals, we are co parents and civil and she’s regardless she’s their mom. My parents like her a lot, Mariana was diagnosed with cancer last year her head is shaved as she is still on chemo and my parents have been helping her with herself and the kids often. They are my kids grandparents and I don’t see why I have to shun Mariana out of everyone she’s been around since grade school."

"I don’t talk to her aside from the kids, she doesn’t come to family gatherings or anything. There’s many things Ava doesn’t like about this. Especially our custody agreement. Here’s the issue, my kids came to me really upset and they showed me a bunch of posts that Ava made about Mariana."

OP went on to explain the conflict, "Ava for the past months has been writing posts about Mariana. She’s taken a picture of her from her profiles, one of her in a wig after she shaved her hair saying “take off the f-ing wig” another picture of Mariana with no wig on saying “that’s better b**tch, she took another one of whag mariana posted of her and the kids on their birthdays saying “so happy to see my babies getting so big” to which Ava reposted saying “yeah your still dying tho” these got worse even people Ava was friends with were posting about Mariana AND our kids.

OP revealed how this affected their family, "My kids are upset, we all sat down and she tried saying that Mariana was messaging her saying way worse stuff, I asked her to show me, but she said that it’s on Snapchat and they are gone, (It was confirmed that Mariana doesn’t even have Snapchat)

OP went on, "I told Ava that she needed to go for a little while me and my kids talked. They said that they found her on Instagram and this has been happening since she’s got cancer based on how long she’s been posting these, they were obviously hurt, they said that they wanted to go to their moms for a little while and this made them extremely uncomfortable with her which was understandable. Me and mariana talked, apparently she’s seen this but didn’t bring it up because she wasn’t in the mood to cause any drama." 

"Me and Ava talked, I told her that she’s going to publicly apologize to Mariana and my kids since everything was made public, apologize to Mariana through text and my kids in person. I left for a bit to think. All of this embarrassed Ava greatly," OP explained.

"I’m getting messages from people saying that I’m an asshole and I made her do all of that and didn’t even forgive her, and humiliated her. I think that it’s odd to accuse me of that, theres a line between caring about someone’s well being and being secretly in love with them and if I was highly doubt I would be divorced and married for this long and I feel like embarrassment was deserved, I hate to say it but this just made me disgusted."

Internet sides with man who made wife publicly apologize after she mocked his cancer-stricken ex

OP’s actions sparked a heated debate. Users backed his decision, calling it necessary for his kids' well-being.

One user wrote, "Nta. Honestly this is grounds for divorce what she did is awful and absolutely disgusting. I hope your ex recovers and I wish you and your children well"

Another said, "Sorry, but you need to get rid of Ava. Imagine being so insecure that you abuse a cancer-suffering parent for months. NTA."

Others were even more critical of Ava’s behavior, suggesting that the marriage may not be salvageable, "Think about what kind of example you're setting to your kids when you stay with someone who says THAT to a cancer patient! NTA OP, but you will be it you don't divorce that awful, awful excuse of a human being."

"Anyone who could say those things publicly has said worse, and will again. There is no coming back from this. She mocked your children’s mother’s fight for her life. Think about that. And FFS, don’t get this monster pregnant," another user wrote.

Another commented, "Unfortunately your current wife is an awful person. I don't see how anyone could maintain a relationship with her after this, especially not your kids, but not you either."

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