‘AITA for not agreeing to celebrate Christmas as a family because my mom called the cops on my husband?'

A woman has shared her dilemma on Reddit over cancelling Christmas dinner with her family because of her “narcissist” mother.

The 27-year-old woman, under the username thottbubble, began on Reddit’s 'Am I The A*****e' (AITA) subreddit section, “Usually my husband(30) and I host Christmas eve at our house. It’s nothing big, just my (divorced) parents and my three teenage siblings.”

However, she changed plans for this year after her mother “called the cops on my husband a few weeks back.”

Cops agreed with the woman and her husband

Elaborating further, the Redditor wrote, “One of my sisters(19) called me, crying, asking me to go pick up our younger sister (17) because she had just got in a fight with my mom & my mom slapped her. Our newborn baby was sleeping and we wanted to get the 17yr old ASAP, so I stayed behind while my husband went to get both my sisters.”

The woman revealed that when her husband asked her sister to come with him, her mother began “causing a scene, started yanking on the car door, telling him to let my sister out or she’s calling the cops.”

Her mother did not stop there as she actually called the police but the officers took the woman and her husband’s side.

“This enraged my mom. For some odd reason she hates that my sisters and I are close. She has been telling them for years to keep secrets from me, to not tell me what happens in her house,” the Redditor disclosed.

Redditor did not ‘trust’ her mother

The woman also shared that her mother “treats me like I am some random outsider and not her literal daughter and I’m tired of it. She tends to sweep EVERYTHING under the rug.”

“She also has a tendency to pull the ‘well sorry I’m such a bad mom’ card. Or she deflects and gaslights… a lot,” she added.

The woman then said that this time she won’t let her mother’s behavior go easily. “If she cannot come to us like an adult and apologize + have a mature conversation, she is not welcome in my home. So…Christmas eve is canceled,” she stated.

The Reddit user also asserted that her mother “has serious narcissistic behaviors and seriously needs therapy but I don’t even trust her to be honest with a therapist. She’s the type to make everyone else the bad guy and make herself look good,” before asking if she’s “AITA for canceling everyone’s Christmas?”

Redditors ask woman to host party without her mother

People supported the woman in the comment section, with one saying, “NTA. I don’t think your husband was in the wrong and even the cops agreed on that!”

The second one wrote, “NTA - your husbands actions seem justified and the police seemed to agree. Can you not have the dinner sans the mother?”

“NTA for uninviting your mom. But I think you should still host Christmas for the rest of the family, cause it seems like your sisters and your dad didn't do anything wrong. Plus, hosting the Christmas for everyone while uninviting mom would send a much stronger message to her. Or maybe I'm just a petty AH for suggesting this. Lol,” the third one posted.

An individual said, “Your sisters are 17 and 19, plenty old enough to choose to come have Christmas with you and your husband. You're NTA for uninviting mom, but she will torment your sisters if they have to stay home with her. Invite them and have a nice holiday together with your child. I was the first to escape my parents' home. I picked my sister up as often as possible to give her breaks from the crazy until she was old enough to get out, too. It makes a big difference, and keeps them from getting consumed by the abuse.”

Another individual commented, “Yikes. NTA. I don't know if I would have cancelled everything or just told mom to stay home. Either way she wasn't coming and I'm sorry your sibling is going through this.”

“I definitely agree with continuing to host Christmas dinner just don’t invite your mom at all. Christmas is a time to have good memories with your family, don’t let your mom ruin what could be a good time for you and the rest of your family. NTA,” a comment read.

Another comment read, “NTA. She sounds abusive in all reality. As for the teenagers, anything that happens in their lives if their business to tell whomever they decide.”

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