'AITA for not attending my sister's wedding after she booted me out of the bridal party?'

Reddit users rallied to support a woman who claimed to have not attended her sister's wedding after being "kicked" out of her sister's bridal party.

The Original Poster (OP) posted in Reddit’s 'Am I the A**hole' (AITA) subreddit, asking others, "AITA for not attending my sister's wedding after she kicked me out of the bridal party?"

Woman shares not attending sister's wedding over bridal party drama

In the post, the Redditor explained that she’s a 28-year-old woman with a 31-year-old sister who got engaged and was preparing for her wedding and had asked her younger sister to be her bridesmaid.

Sharing a backstory about the sisterhood, the OP said: "We’ve been through a lot together, especially when it came to family issues growing up. She’s always been the "golden child," and I’ve always been the "black sheep" in our family. It’s been hard, but I’ve always supported her," per Someecards.

The OP explained that she was ecstatic about the idea of being a bridesmaid because she has "never been in a bridal party before" and she "really wanted to make sure everything went perfectly for her."

However, the drama started when she sent out the outfits for the bridal party. The OP apparently didn't feel at ease with the style; it didn't fit her body type and wasn't something she would pick for herself.

Not being sure about the style, the OP asked her sister "if there were any alternatives," which eventually made her sister "upset."

According to the OP, her sister "said that I was 'ruining the vibe' of the wedding and that I should just be grateful to be included." The OP was then "accused of "making everything about me" and "taking attention away from her special day."

The OP claimed that her sister refused to listen to her explanation and that it was simply about "feeling comfortable in my own skin" and not about "stealing attention."

"After a lot of back-and-forth, she ended up kicking me out of the bridal party completely. She said that if I wasn’t going to fully support her vision, then I shouldn’t be a part of the day at all," the OP shared.

The OP was left "devasted" but she respected her sister's decision even though she was upset and didn't want to make matters worse. She kept out of her wedding planning and didn't go to any more bridal party activities.

"The day of the wedding came, and I wasn’t invited to the ceremony or reception," she added.

The older sister apparently sent her younger sister a text message, saying, "I hope you understand why I had to make this decision. I don’t want any drama on my special day."

Although the OP was deeply offended by the events that transpired, she chose to remain silent because she "didn’t want to be the kind of person who would cause more tension."

Moreover, the OP revealed that her family is also "furious" with her. According to them, she should have accepted it and attended the wedding in order to "keep the peace."

"My mom keeps calling me selfish, and my dad says I’m being too dramatic," she said.

However, OP's friends have assured her that she made the correct decision, but she still feels as though she might have failed her sister.

"She’s my sister, and I’ve always been there for her, so I’m questioning if I should’ve just gone and supported her regardless of the drama. So, AITA for not attending my sister’s wedding after she kicked me out of the bridal party?" the OP said in conclusion.

OP sparked mixed responses from Reddit community

The OP received a mixed response from the Reddit community. Some labeled her as an "NTA" for not attending the wedding while others found her a "YTA" for "commenting about the bridesmaids' dress."

Supporting the OP, one Redditor wrote, "You were not invited. You were specifically told you were not invited. Why would you attend? Tell your family members you didn't because you were not invited and told not to show. They can take the rest up with your sister. NTA."

"NTA but I’m curious as to why you are even asking. Of you weren’t invited to the wedding you were right not to go. If you gate crashed the wedding you would have been rude. You respected your sisters wishes," echoed another supporting Redditor.

Another added, "NTA for not going to the wedding that you weren’t invited to.  Does your family know you weren’t invited? I do think you were kinda the AH for complaining about the dress.  Nobody likes the bridesmaids dresses they have to wear.  You just wear it and support the bride.  Your sister is the AH for not inviting you to the wedding."

Several others called the OP "YTA" or "ESH" for commenting on the bridesmaid costume as one said in part, "ESH. Why on earth couldn't you just wear the dress all of the bridesmaids would be wearing? It was one day out of your entire life."

Another said, "YTA for commenting about the bridesmaids dress. You DID make it about you. Women have been wearing ugly unflattering bridesmaid dresses for decades if not centuries. Not only did you comment, you argued."

"YTA. Most bridal party dresses are not something we would choose for ourselves. It isn’t your wedding. Why did you think it was all about you?" added one.

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