'AITA for not letting my husband meet our firstborn daughter after he missed the delivery?'

The internet has come together in support of a woman who didn't let her husband meet their firstborn because he apparently missed the birth of their daughter.

Taking to Reddit's 'Am I The A**hole' (AITA) forum, the original poster (OP) narrated her story in the post titled "AITA for not letting my husband meet our first born child?"

A woman 'refused' to let her husband meet their firstborn daughter

Providing a background of the scenario, the OP said that her husband and his best friend Anna decided it would be best for them to stay friends after dating for years and being friends for a long time. "I've had no problem with this relationship until now," the OP began.

She shared that Anna's brother was involved in an automobile accident the day she gave birth.

Anna called her husband in the "middle of the night" to ask if he could drop her off at her brother's hospital, which was an hour away because she was too afraid to drive.

"My husband agreed, told me quickly while I was half-asleep and rushed out," she continued.

The OP contacted her husband after experiencing contractions a few hours later. After several attempts, he didn't answer, "so I gave up and called my Dad, who drove me to the local hospital (12 minutes away)."

Having experienced around three miscarriages and one stillbirth, the OP shared that she was terrified to give birth by herself. "My husband promised me that no matter what, he'd be there for me. Guess what? He wasn't," she expressed.

The OP and her father called her husband several times while she was in labor, and when he finally answered the dad's phone during the delivery, he claimed to have "misplaced" his phone in the chaos.

The OP's father informed the husband that no matter how fast he drives now, he would miss the birth of his child.

"Well, my husband took that as "he's already screwed up, so it doesn't matter when he shows up at this point" so when he FINALLY came, our daughter was about 5 hours old and I'd already moved to the maternity ward," the OP noted.

The OP shared that she refused her husband to meet their daughter because she "was so high on emotions and was shaking when I saw him and didn't want it negatively affect my time with the baby."

"I wanted her birth to be a happy time and I was already struggling to feed her," she added.

The OP further shared, "My husband was in a bad state and told me to please let him see her, so I told him to stand by the window and held the baby up so he could see her."

"I told him to then leave and he'll be allowed to interact with the baby at my father's home when we're both well and out of the hospital and that I was most likely divorcing him," she shared.

The husband began sobbing, expressing regret, and defending himself by claiming that Anna needed him as her brother was in grave danger.

The OP stated that she informed her husband that she "didn't care and that his daughter has already come second to him," before adding, "I'm putting my daughter's and my health first and won't let her be sidelined."

The OP added that Anna later called her and claimed that she was being "controlling" and "she'd never met someone as cruel as me for not letting a father see his baby."

"I told her that my husband made his decision and that this was his doing not mine," the OP retaliated.

Feeling guilty for her actions, the OP said, "I can't help feel cruel in my actions and feel like I'm depriving my baby of both her parents being together. My husband sees her a few hours each day now. AITA?"

Redditors call out the husband while backing the OP

The post sparked tons of reactions from Redditors, with many blaming the husband for choosing "another woman over his wife," while calling the OP an "NTA."

One Reddit user wrote, "NTA. He chose another woman over his wife. And Anna had the balls to call you after you gave birth to bitch you out. She can rot in hell. I say your husband should only be allowed in your life if he completely cuts out Anna."

Another declared, "NTA. Your husband wasn’t in the wrong to help his friend in her hour of need, HOWEVER, he was wrong in not rushing to the hospital once he was made aware that you were in labor. Baby making is a dangerous game and anything could have happened, especially considering your past medical history."

"This is wrenching. I think if you decide to stay with him, he really needs to unpack his relationship with Anna. What if something happens to your child and Anna needs him at the same time? I would not be comfortable with myself or my children being second priority in my spouse's life, but that's me. NTA," one person wrote.

Another remarked, "NTA, giving birth after a stillborn and miscarriages makes childbirth even more terrifying than it already is. He chose to support his friend instead of his wife. His friend didn't need him as much as his wife. That shows he doesnt care for her or the baby. I'd divorce him too."

"NTA. I’ll say it: they’re having an affair. There is no reason he should’ve left your side. She could’ve called a taxi, she could’ve Ubered. Always trust your instincts. BTW. THE FACT THAT HE WENT BACK TO HER AFTER HIS ARGUMENT WITH YOU TELL ME ALL I NEED TO KNOW," exclaimed one individual.

The OP shared updates about her situation with her husband

Following the incident, the OP shared several updates on why she was so mad at her husband. She shared that it was "not the first time he put Anna before me. I can forgive the other times since I could handle it but this time was the straw."

She further noted that the divorce is "probably going to happen" and her brother had been looking for lawyers for her.

The OP also shared how Anna's brother graciously told her that he and Anna's parents believed that Anna and the husband were back together after we "split when I was 7 months pregnant."

Moreover, they didn't mind that he wasn't with his pregnant wife because he arrived at the hospital as Anna's boyfriend.

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