‘AITA for not wanting my roommate’s guest to use my expensive haircare products?’

Everyone has a special attachment to the things they've worked hard for, and it’s natural to feel protective about them.

A 28-year-old woman faced a rather distressing situation when her male roommate’s 34-year-old friend, Sarah, used her expensive hair care products during a visit. To avoid this happening again, the OP quietly moved the products out of sight. 

Soon, the OP's roommate called her rude after Sarah couldn’t find the products. Now, the OP is left questioning whether she was wrong for taking action.

Woman hides her expensive haircare products from roommate’s friend

A Redditor shared the details of the disagreement between herself and her male roommate on the 'Am I the A**hole' forum.

The post, titled 'AITA for hiding my expensive shampoo and conditioner from my friend’s guest?' section, began with an introduction about her living situation.

She revealed that she shared her apartment with her 34-year old male friend.

She then recounted the distressing incident that occurred recently: "Last weekend, while we were away, he invited his female friend (Sarah) to stay over. When we got back, I noticed she had used most of my shampoo and conditioner without asking." 

The OP emphasized how difficult it was for her to afford those products: "I had splurged on these expensive products to treat myself. I also make a lot less money than my friend."

The 28-year-old detailed how things took a turn. "Today, Sarah came over again for a visit and asked to shower at ours before heading to a dance class," she explained. 

To protect her hair care products, the OP had moved them to her room: "However, I had taken my expensive products to my room this time, leaving only my friend’s basic shampoo out for her to use." 

The situation escalated when Sarah couldn't find the conditioner. "She asked my friend, who came to my room to ask me about it. I told him that she’s his guest, and it’s not my responsibility to provide spa products for her," wrote the OP.

She then shared her friend's response: "My friend got mad and thinks I’m rude and petty. AITA?"

In an update, the OP explained that her friend had come around after understanding her frustration: "UPDATE: I showed my friend where to buy the shampoo and conditioner, he said he’s sorry for getting angry and ordered new bottles for everyone to use. Thanks for all the NTA comments!!"

Internet supports woman after she hid her haircare products from roommate's friend

Redditors backed the OP who had spent a large amount on her haircare products and criticized her roomate's guest for using those products.

One person said, “NTA. She’s his guest, she shouldn’t be using your expensive products, and he certainly shouldn’t be expecting you to provide them for her. If she wants to use the good stuff at your place, he should pay for it, or better yet she should shower at her own place."

A Redditor shared, “NTA. How does someone use ALL of a product like shampoo and conditioner?? How much did she use?? She’s not your guest and not entitled to your stuff. That’s the end of it.” 

“NTA….To use most of someone else’s product? Nope. Tell him what you buy and let him buy done to keep on hand. Or if she is going to be a regular “guest”, she can keep a caddy of her own products for use,” a user added.

Another declared, “Nta. She showered at theirs to purposely use her products. Seems weird though. I don’t shower at my friends house.”

One user commented, “NTA. Listen, once is an accident. I could potentially believe that expensive products belong to their male friend and not the female roommate. But in my opinion, using them once and then explicitly noticing that the products are NOT there anymore sends a very clear message: You weren't supposed to use those. The polite thing to do is apologize, or at the very least don't bring it up.”

Finally, a user wrote, “NTA. They aren't hers to use. They're your expensive products and she didn't even ask before using them the first time. You're not being petty, you're being practical.”

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