'AITA for offending my husband by not telling him I was going to sleep as I was upset?'

A woman under the username "ihanin" recently took to Reddit's "Am I the A**hole" (AITA) to share an emotional disagreement she had with her husband. The 32-year-old original poster (OP) recounted an evening where a simple misunderstanding over bedtime led to tension in their relationship.

In her post titled "AITA for not telling my husband I'm going to bedroom to cry?", the OP shared that she and her husband, 31, had been driving home from a friend’s house when a conversation about something painful made her cry,

Husband offended as wife goes to bed without informing him

"We both were tired," the OP wrote, before continuing, "On the way we talked about something that was painful for me and I started to cry."

After arriving home, her husband asked for more details about her feelings, which she answered. Afterward, she went inside to take the dogs for a walk before retreating to the bedroom, still feeling upset.

"I didn’t want to disturb my husband's routines," she explained, adding that she knew he would join her in bed later.

She went straight to bed, continuing to cry quietly under the covers. When her husband eventually came to bed, he put in earplugs and coldly said, “Good f**king night.”

Shocked, the woman asked why he was speaking to her that way, prompting him to respond, "Think about it till morning." When she pressed for an explanation, he said that he was offended by her actions.

The OP explained, "When I demanded to know what I did wrong, he told me that I had first offended him by getting out of the car in the middle of a conversation, which he would have accepted, but when I didn't inform that I was going to the bedroom after brushing my teeth I offended him and did not follow good manners."

The woman acknowledged that they have a habit of informing each other when going to sleep, but explained that she was emotional and just wanted to be alone with her feelings.

She said, "I agree, we have a habit of telling each other when we are going to sleep, but this time I was emotional and just wanted to cry my feelings out."

Although her husband later apologized for his words, the woman was still upset by the incident. "He eventually apologized for what he said, but I’m still really sad," she admitted.

Internet claims OP's husband was insensitive and lacked empathy

Many Reddit users supported the OP and expressed concern over her husband's insensitive and unempathetic reaction. They noted that his behavior, particularly swearing at her while she was crying, was inappropriate and hurtful.

A Reddit user wrote, "NTA He responded very poorly to you, and I'm sorry for that. You should not have had to spell it out for him, as he knew you were upset. He should have given you the time and support you needed to move through your emotions and feelings, and provided that shoulder for you to cry on. He dropped the ball on this one, and I'm glad he apologized to you."

Another remarked, "I feel utterly sick for you reading this. NTA at all. Him on the other hand? Totally TA. You deserve far better."

One commentator said, "Imagine lacking empathy to the point you enter your bedroom and see your spouse crying and getting angry. The amount of people that lack empathy frighten me."

"NTA he would have come to check on you if he was actually concerned. Swearing at you like that when you’re crying is really ugly behavior. I hope he doesn’t often treat you like that," another added.

One individual stated, "NTA, but, honey, you need to work on your self esteem   Repeat after me "I am not a doormat"!.  Now tell yourself that multiple times a day. "

Another added, "NTA is this normal behaviour for him? Seems like he doesn’t like you having emotions about something and had to make it all about himself."

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