'AITA for refusing to financially support my girlfriend after she quit her job with no backup plan?'

Money may not buy happiness, but it certainly plays a role in maintaining peace in relationships.

One man on Reddit recently found himself at odds with his girlfriend after she quit her job on impulse, and he took to the platform's popular "AITAH" forum to ask, "AITAH for refusing to cover my girlfriend’s half of the rent after she quit her job on impulse?"

Boyfriend gets frustrated as girlfriend quits job without any backup plan

For two years, the arrangement was fair, as the original poster (OP) shared, "I [29M] have been living with my girlfriend, Sarah [27F], for two years. We’ve always split the rent and bills 50/50, and while money has never been amazing, we make it work."

But everything changed last month when one day Sarah came home "absolutely livid." 

"She ranted about how her boss was incompetent, how she was sick of her job, and how she couldn’t take it anymore. Then she just blurted out that she quit—on the spot, no backup plan, no notice, nothing," the OP wrote. 

Understandably shocked, the boyfriend asked what she planned to do next. Her response? "She shrugged and said, ‘I’ll figure it out.’"

However, figuring it out never quite happened. While Sarah sent out a few applications, her approach to unemployment felt more like an extended break than a job hunt.

"Weeks passed, and she started treating unemployment like a vacation, sleeping in, binge-watching shows, and saying she needed to ‘decompress’ before jumping back into the workforce," the OP noted. 

Meanwhile, bills still needed to be paid, and the boyfriend found himself shouldering more and more of the financial burden.

Boyfriend struggles as girlfriend treats unemployment like a vacation

As the next rent payment loomed, the OP reminded Sarah of the upcoming expense, only to be met with an alarming response.

"She casually told me she couldn’t pay her half and asked me to cover it until she ‘got back on her feet,'" the boyfriend shared. 

At this point, it became clear that Sarah wasn’t prioritizing getting another job, and the OP had had enough, as he wrote, "I asked when she expected that to be, and she admitted she hadn’t really been looking that hard for a new job yet. That was the last straw."

He put her foot down and told his girlfriend that he "wasn’t going to be the only one financially supporting us, especially when she put herself in this situation."

Sarah did not take it well and got really upset. She even told OP that he "should want to help her because we're a team, but I feel like a team requires both people pulling their weight."

She went as far as to accuse him of being "unsupportive and selfish," which created a major rift in their relationship.

Now, the tension is palpable, leading OP to seek help on Reddit. He asked the community, "Am I the a**hole for refusing to cover for her after she quit with no plan?"

Redditors advise OP to break up with his girlfriend 

The response was overwhelmingly in his favor. Reddit users agreed that being a supportive partner doesn’t mean enabling irresponsibility.

One wrote, "NTA. She is the a**hole, though. This won't be the last time she tries to guilt you for her benefit. This is not just a momentary thing. This will happen over and over if you let it happen. Time for a new roommate and girlfriend."

 "NTA - of course not. But if you dont want to put your own housing in jeopardy you might have to pay it, and get rid of your gf," another suggested. 

Someone else noted, "A team works together, one doesn’t just quit their job without another lined up or without discussing it with their other team member. NTA."

One comment declared, "NTA, her lack or urgency for a new job and poor planning to just quit is not your issue. How would this have worked in the roles we're reversed and you quit, asking her to support you?"

Another observed, "NTA. A team would have discussed options before she quit," and one more bluntly said, "NTAH. break up with her broke a** and find someone who actually wants to contribute instead of leech."

One more offered, "Lol... funny how she's calling you selfish when she was the one unilaterally deciding to quit and then laze about...There was no team when she made those decisions alone. You're supposed to give her an easy life thats why she's not looking for a new job. Tell her if she can not pay rent then she has to move out (or if you can not afford it alone, that you will tell the landlord to end your lease.)"

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