'AITA for still referring to my late spouse as husband despite my boyfriend not liking it?'
A woman is facing a tough dilemma after continuing to call her late husband "my husband," despite her current boyfriend's discomfort.
The 33-year-old, still grieving the suicide of her husband, shared a deep bond with him, as he helped her through some of her darkest moments.
While living with her boyfriend and their daughter, the woman refuses to refer to her late husband as her "ex-husband," sparking tension and conflict in their relationship.
Woman explains disagreement with BF involving late husband
A Reddit user, known as CareerOk5129, recently shared a post titled, "AITAH for still referring to my late husband as my husband despite my bf telling me he's uncomfortable with it?"
In the post on Reddit's popular 'Am I the A**hole' (AITA) forum, the Original Poster (OP) explained, " "I (33F) have been with my bf (34M) for about 2.5 years, though we met directly after my husband's suicide... Neither of us were in the right headspace to start a relationship, so we were just friends for a little over a year before making it official."
The woman continued, "We now have a house together and a daughter. I have always been open about being a widow and how hard it was when I lost my husband. We were together for almost 8 years, so most of my adult years thus far."
"He helped me out of a very bad situation and prevented my own suicide on multiple occasions. He taught me to grow up and how to be an adult," OP added.
Despite the challenges they faced, the woman still views her late husband as her soulmate, even four years later. She wrote, "We obviously had our problems, but I loved him and still view him as my soul mate even 4 years later... My bf refers to him as my EX husband every chance he gets and hates that I still call him my husband..."
OP quipped, "My bf and I are not married, nor do I have any urges to get married again since I also have a divorce under my belt from getting married too young." The post concluded with a question, "AITAH for continuing to call him my husband despite my bf saying he doesn't like it?"
Internet dubs OP as 'YTA' for calling her late husband 'my husband'
Upon learning of the disagreement between the couple, after the woman refused to change her late husband's title, several internet users quickly took to commenting, calling her the YTA.
One user wrote, "I'm gonna say yes YTA but not a huge one. Because you were trying to find someone to fill the void that was left when your husband committed suicide. Your boyfriend was essentially the rebound, like it or not, but that's what he became, and you never gave yourself time to heal. You've been together with your boyfriend for 2.5 years, you share a child together but you can't at least say ex-husband."
Another person declared, "Very small YTA. Maybe the 2 of you can compromise by calling him your late husband?" A Redditor said, "Yes. YTAH, he is your LATE husband." One individual shared, "You’re just hindering your healing by referring to him that way. Best of luck."
Someone else explained, "After all that you still decided to have a child with someone you clearly don’t really care for is crazy! You should’ve never gotten involved with your current bf let alone had a child with him since you’re clearly haven’t moved on from your late husband.. should’ve stayed single."
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