'AITA for telling my fiance he stole my best friend's very detailed proposal idea?'

What started as a seemingly perfect engagement for a 24-year-old woman and her 26-year-old fiance of two years quickly unraveled over a single comment—a joke that touched a nerve neither of them expected.

A Reddit user's engagement took a dramatic turn after a seemingly harmless joke ignited a firestorm of emotions in her fiance, leaving her questioning if she had gone too far.

Woman says her fiance's proposal was perfect until she realised it was a familiar one

The 24-year-old woman shared that she and her fiance of two years recently got engaged in what she described as a “wonderful” proposal.

However, there was one catch- the proposal felt eerily familiar.

"I couldn't help but notice how similar it was to a conversation I had with my best friend (23F) of over a decade, a conversation that happened many years ago, in which she detailed exactly what she would do "if she proposed to me" and it was very specific to my general likes and interests," the woman mentioned.

"It was pretty clear to me that he approached my best friend and she let him know about a plan she told me years ago,” she explained. The plan, detailed by her best friend of over a decade, had perfectly captured her likes and interests.

In what she thought was a lighthearted moment, she commented on it to her fiance.

“I told him it was cute that he asked her how I wanted to be proposed to, but I joked that he stole her entire, very detailed plan, so it was more her proposal than his,” the Reddit user said. What she didn’t anticipate was how her words would land.

Accusations of infidelity spark explosive fallout over a decade-old secret plan

The woman said that her fiance went silent and then his emotions erupted.

“He said that he always felt second place to my best friend, that I was only marrying him to satisfy my religious family, and that I’ve been lying about my preferences,” she recounted. The accusations didn’t stop there. “He said I’m probably having an affair with my friend,” she said.

Stunned by his reaction, the woman insisted she had no idea he felt this way. While he had previously expressed frustration over how much time she spent with her best friend, she believed she had balanced her relationships to accommodate his feelings.

“I tried to reassure him, but I thought it would be better to leave and told him we would talk about it later,” she said.

Since the argument, the couple hasn’t been in contact and the woman has avoided telling her best friend about what happened. Meanwhile, friends and family have weighed in, with many siding with her fiance and urging her to repair their relationship.

“Others in my life think he was completely valid for blowing up and I need to do all I can to fix this relationship,” she added.

Internet roasts bride-to-be, declares 'YTA' verdict

But as her story made its way online, the Internet wasn’t as forgiving.

Declaring her the clear antagonist, the online consensus was unanimous "YTA."

One fan shared, "YTA. He did something sweet and tried to give you a good experience you would like. He asked your friends to make sure it was a memorable experience, and you threw it in his face. “It was more her proposal than his” what a stupid fucking thing to say to someone who just proposed to you. You accused him of “stealing” the idea. That has a negative connotation. It’s a pretty shitty thing to accuse him of. Don’t make the same mistake with your next boyfriend if they propose too." 

Another wrote, "Yeah, OP, YTA for how you reacted to his proposal, but it sounds like your fiance has some very serious issues with you and your BFF! Like, I find it really weird that he proposed to you, then basically called you a lesbian who's emotionally cheating on him? Like, fuck the proposal shit. What the fuck is going on? Is this true? Or is he... kind of an insecure psycho?"

A different viewer pointed out, "YTA.

Why would you even say a thing like that? He did exactly what you said was perfect. He wanted it to be nice. It took him planning and effort, and you just said this was my besties idea. He told you he felt second place to her, and you need to reflect on your behaviors. Do you want him as your partner or her? I like chilling with my friends, but we have lunch maybe once a month. My partner gets my attention first and always. Are you even that into him? Do you sit on your phone with her while you are supposed to be spending time with him? I feel like if anyone knew what you said they would think the same thing. YTA."

A follower commented, "YTA. Lets recap here, your fiance talked to your bestie to find out what would make you happy when he proposed, got the information, and executed the plan. This all makes you upset because...Sorry you will need to finish that sentence because I have no idea what your problem is."

One opinion stated, "YTA. You got what you wanted and then you threw it in his face that he got the info from someone else? He went out of his way to do what you wanted and you acted like a complete asshole about it."

Another individual observed, "YTA. Are you under the impression that all men have great ideas when it comes to this kind of stuff? Many don't so I think it was really nice that he cared enough to approach your best friend to ask. To say it was more her proposal than his is an AH thing to say and also an odd thing to say. You don't sound that concerned about his feelings, wanting to fix this or even getting back together. Are you sure this is the relationship you want?"

A user explained, "My thoughts exactly. I'd kill for a guy who went to my best friends and asked, "Hey, from what you know about him, how would he like to be proposed to?" It shows a lot of courage and integration with my friend group, as well as a level of self awareness."

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