'AITA for telling my husband to not go on vacation to Japan with his friends without me?'

When parenting duties meet wanderlust, tensions can flare—as one woman recently shared on Reddit's popular "Am I the A**hole" (AITA) forum, her heartfelt post about her husband’s planned ski trip to Japan.

With a 1-year-old daughter at home, a full-time job at a hospital, and limited PTO, the original poster (OP) finds herself grappling with jealousy and fairness as her husband plans an exciting getaway with his friend.

Wife feels 'jealous and left behind' as husband plans ski trip to Japan

“I work full time in a hospital, but my husband works from home and has a very flexible schedule,” OP explained.

'He wants to go abroad to Japan with his friend at the end of January to go skiing. While I would die to be able to go, I can't because 1) I don't have enough PTO and 2) we have a baby at home," she added.

While he’s eager to hit the slopes in Japan this January, she feels left behind. “From my standpoint, I don’t want him to go because I don’t get to go have fun, and I’m jealous,” she stated.

Though her husband has made logistical arrangements, including extending their nanny’s hours to ensure childcare during his absence, the emotional weight of the situation remains.

“He is extending our nanny’s hours for that week so technically I will have the childcare coverage that I need, but I still feel like it’s unfair,” she admitted.

Her candor about her feelings has sparked a heated debate online, with many weighing in on whether it’s fair to ask her husband to stay home—or whether jealousy should take a backseat to personal freedom.

Internet doesn't hold back, declares woman YTA

The internet had a lot to say about this one, and opinions came in fast and unfiltered, with several calling her YTA.

One fan declared, "YTA. If it was a childcare thing then 100% N-t-a, but even you're saying it isn't it. It's that you're stuck working and you want him not to go because you're jealous. You're expressly saying you don't want him to go have fun because you're jealous this isn't even inferred. What else can't be do because you'd get jealous?

Another added, "You don't want him to go and have fun without you. YTA."

A follower remarked, "YTA, it's a week, childcare is covered and you just want to be PettyBetty because you're jealous."

One comment declared, "Yta Because he already figured out childcare and in the post you state it’s for jealousy reasons. Don’t be jealous or upset, just learn to communicate properly. If you can’t take pto it’s not really fair to be upset but I would say make time to take your own week off!!!! You don’t have to not go on a trip just because you are doing it separately. You guys are blessed to have a nanny and be able to take solo trips so just breathe. It’s okay. It is alright for both of you to recharge."

Another observed, "Weeell... What stops YOU from taking a week to go somewhere some other time? OR is it more that you don't want him to have fun without you?"

As one person explained, "I think more context is needed to give a real clear answer, but based on what's here... YTA. It's a soft one, and I get it... FOMO is hard to go up against, but it's healthy and important to have interests, activities, etc. outside of family for oneself. 1 week boys trip while you have support at home with your baby seems fair IF you take the same time for yourself, when you're able."

"YTA. If he covered childcare and there is no extra responsibility for you to take on - and you were invited but can’t go due to the job you chose to have - he hasn’t done anything wrong by wanting to take his PTO," another comment read. 

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