'AITA for telling my husband to pitch in because I can't work full-time and make dinner every night?'

A woman recently took to Reddit's "AITAH" forum, posing the question, "AITAH for telling my husband I’m not cooking dinner every night since I also work full-time?"

The original poster (OP) shared that she works full-time, just like her husband, but also has to cook dinner every night without assistance. As she got exhausted, she suggested sharing the responsibility with his husband, but he didn't take it well. 

The Reddit post ignited a debate on house chores and the husband's sense of responsibility, garnering over 13,000 likes and around 5,500 comments.

Wife frustrated over being the only one responsible for cooking dinner

The OP shared, "I (30F) have been married to my husband, Tom (32M), for 4 years. We both work full-time jobs—he works in IT, and I work in marketing. Despite us having similar work hours, I’ve somehow ended up being the one who cooks dinner every single night."

"At first, I didn’t mind because I enjoy cooking, but over time, it’s become exhausting. Some days, I come home after a long day and just want to relax. Meanwhile, Tom comes home, sits on the couch, and waits for dinner to be served. He never offers to help with cooking or cleaning up afterward," the woman noted. 

When the OP told her husband that she's currently "the only one responsible for cooking dinner" and suggested that they "split the responsibility—either he cooks a few nights a week, we take turns, or we order takeout sometimes," her husband got defensive. 

"Tom got defensive and said it’s 'not a big deal' since I’m 'better at cooking anyway' and that it’s something I’ve always done. He also said he’s too tired after work and doesn’t see why this needs to change," the woman wrote.

Naturally, OP got frustrated and told her husband that "it’s unfair to expect me to do everything when we both work."

"Now he’s upset, saying I’m overreacting and making a big deal out of something small. He even told a couple of his friends, who are siding with him, saying 'it’s just dinner,'" informed the woman, posing the question if she was being unreasonable in asking her husband to help her out with cooking. 

Redditors think OP did the right thing by asking her husband to help with cooking dinner

Most Redditors agreed that OP wasn't being unreasonable by asking her husband to help her make dinner, many even suggested she eat outside or opt for solo dinners if he remains adamant about not pitching in. 

One wrote, "NTA. If it's a small deal and it's just dinner, he can do it himself or order takeout," while another shared, "I’d take myself to a nice place and eat before I came home. No need to hear him bellyaching while I’m trying to eat then."

"Or at least clean up. Whoever doesn't cook does the dishes and clean up in my house," expressed a person, and another Redditor echoed, "100% this. I love cooking (and I am the better cook anyway), so I cook almost all the meals and my partner handles the cleaning up afterwards!"

"Yeah! If he gets upset when she gets home from her solo dinner, she can just let him know it’s no big deal :)," expressed another person, with one more saving, "I’d take myself out to dinner and come home with nothing."

"I would start treating myself to nice dinners out before coming home from work," one offered. 

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