'AITA for telling my mom to stop calling me my dad's new wife?'

The Internet is backing up the 22-year-old woman who called out her mother for making demeaning comments about her relationship with her father.

The original post on Reddit quickly gained over 200 upvotes and hundreds of comments.

A woman confronts her mom 

In the post titled, "AITA for telling my mom to stop saying I’m my dad's new wife?" OP starts by providing context, "I (22F) have always been close with my mom, but not so much with my dad. Growing up, I saw him as the very strict parent, but as I’ve gotten older, I realized that it was mostly my mom degrading him and making him out to be the bad guy."

She continues, "Since then I’ve always tried to do things for my Dad such as, buying him birthday presents and Fathers day presents, repaying him when he buys expensive things for me and my Sister and asking if he wants lollies from the shop. I do these things with my Mom too but the reactions to things are quite opposite from my dad's reactions. "

OP details one situation where she bought an expensive gift for her dad and her mom’s reaction was, "So you spend so much money on your dad but never get anything for me?” or “Where’s my present?” OP responds that she had already gotten her mom gifts like an Apple Watch and jewelry, but her mom still wasn’t satisfied.

The most recent incident occurred on Father’s Day when OP and her sister gifted their dad some new shirts. "He was very appreciative and has been wearing them often," she explains. But then her mom began making snide remarks, like "You're the new wife," and "Go clean the house, new wife."

OP describes how these comments started to physically upset her, leading her to confront her mom.

"I've tried talking to her about these comments but she never wants to listen, she either storms off or starts yelling at me for being manipulated by him."

OP also mentions the strain between her parents, with her mom refusing to speak to her dad for almost a year due to a financial disagreement. Despite this, her mom still expects OP to play the middleman.

"I don’t exactly remember what happened but one day my Dad told me to go ask my Mom something and when I went to go tell my Mom she went off at me… “Why are you speaking to me, get your Father to come speak to me!” , “Go tell your Father he has to speak to me now!” (This is a regular occurrence where my parents would tell me to tell the other parent stuff cause they won’t speak to each other) “He’s my Husband he should be speaking to me!” At that point I had enough and told my Mom to either listen to what I have to say or to take herself to go speak to my Dad."

Her mom reacted angrily to this confrontation, claiming that OP was being manipulated by her dad. OP fired back, saying, "I’m not being manipulated, I’m just sick of you saying things like I’m the new wife."

After a brief silence, her mom came into her room and acted as though nothing happened. OP is now questioning if she was too harsh, leading her to ask, "AITA for telling my mom off?"

Redditors support woman who confronted mom over disrespectful remarks

The Reddit community responded strongly to OP's dilemma, with most users unanimously declaring that OP is NTA (Not the A*****e).

One user wrote, "People like this very much exist. Adults who don’t work through their issues and trauma turn into this. As much as we wish things like this aren’t real, they are. OP I feel you and NTA, there is no getting mums like this to therapy unfortunately."

Another user wrote, "This can't be a real question. Get that woman therapy ASAP."

A third user added, "Wrong, don't help her, let her get crazier and crazier and when she's done and goes to a mental hospital, the father will be able to meet someone decent and the daughter will gain a lot of points with other guys Since they won't have to deal with the mother-in-law. HAHAHAHAHAHHA. NTA OP."

"NTA. Your mom needs therapy," a user wrote.

Another wrote, "NTA. From the sounds of things your mother is attempting to manipulate you as is upset that it isn't working. Just like she is trying to attempt to gaslight your father into apologizing for her actions. She's a mess, although your father is playing her games and dragging you into them so he isn't a heck of a lot better. Your parents are a mess. Get out as soon as you can."

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