‘AITA for wanting a divorce after my wife called me a loser and made fun of my hobbies?’

The internet is siding with a man who decided to divorce his wife after she called him a "loser" and mocked his passion for gaming.

The situation was shared by the man on Reddit’s popular ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum, where it quickly went viral, racking up thousands of comments and reactions.

Man wants a divorce after wife ridicules his hobbies

In the Reddit post titled, “AITA for asking for a divorce after my wife called me a loser and mocked my hobbies?”, the man explained, "My wife and I have been married for a few years, and overall, things have been fine, but recently, we had a huge argument that made me reconsider everything."

The man said he had always been passionate about gaming, board games, and other hobbies that helped him unwind. He had a "dedicated room" in their house for his gaming setup. He admitted investing a lot of time and money into it.

While his wife was never into gaming, the man never thought it would be a problem until a recent argument revealed how she truly felt.

"During an argument about something completely unrelated, she snapped and called me a "loser" and a "manchild" for spending so much time and money on "childish" hobbies," the OP wrote.

He continued, "She went on about how it’s embarrassing that I still play video games as an adult and how I should be focusing on “more important things.” She even mocked my gaming room, calling it a "playroom for an overgrown teenager"."

Naturally, the OP was stunned as his wife had never expressed these feelings so openly before.

"Hearing her say it with such contempt really hit me. I asked if she had always felt this way, and she doubled down, saying she thought I would eventually "grow out of it", he said.

That was the moment the OP realized he couldn’t be with someone who saw him as immature merely because of his interests.

"That was the breaking point for me. I don’t think I can be with someone who doesn’t respect something that is such a big part of my life. It’s not just about gaming, it’s about the fact that she sees me as immature or a joke because of my hobbies," the OP revealed.

Feeling deeply disrespected, he told his wife he wanted a divorce.

"Now, she’s acting like I’m overreacting and that I’m throwing our marriage away over “just some words.” Some of our friends think I’m making a rash decision, but I feel like this was more than just an insult, it was a glimpse into how she truly sees me," the OP concluded.

Internet backs man seeking divorce after wife mocks his hobbies

Reddit was overwhelmingly on the OP’s side, with many users agreeing that his wife’s comments were not just a moment of frustration, but a reflection of her lack of respect for him.

One comment read, "NTA. You already had these hobbies when you got married. It's unreasonable for her to expect you to 'grow out of it.' You marry the person you have, not the one you hope they'll become."

Another user wrote, "Her comments reveal a lack of respect for you and your passions. It’s concerning when a partner can’t support what makes you happy. Marriage should be about uplifting each other, not belittling interests. You deserve someone who values you fully."

Others pointed out that understanding is not a requirement for respect.

"That’s the thing right? You don’t need to understand something to be able to respect it. I don’t understand a lot of my husband’s hobbies. But what I DO UNDERSTAND is that they make him happy…so in return, they make me happy. And it goes both ways. I know that my husband does not understand nor care about cross stitching. But he genuinely listens to me talk about and gets excited WITH me when I get new supplies, or finish a project," said one user.

A particularly blunt comment summed up the situation, "You’re divorcing someone who’s trying to control you and gaslight you into a version of yourself that SHE finds acceptable. That means she didn’t find you acceptable as you were. Nope. NTA divorce away."

"NTA - tell her you wouldn’t dream of saddling her with a loser like yourself (that’s sarcasm to get her to eat her words), and so that’s why you’re setting her free to find more of a man. It’s giving her what she wants," said another user.

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