'AITA for yelling at my sick husband after he kept me up all night then asked me to help with our child?'

The internet is rallying behind a woman who snapped at her husband after he repeatedly woke her up throughout the night while sick.

The situation was shared by the original poster (OP), on Reddit’s 'Am I The A*****e (AITA)' forum, where the post quickly gained traction, amassing thousands of upvotes and comments.

Woman lashes out at husband

In her Reddit post titled "AITA for blowing up at my sick husband when he asked for help with our toddler?" OP explains that their toddler had been sick over the weekend, causing her to lose significant sleep. 

OP explains, "I plan on sending this post to my husband once the verdict is in, whichever way it goes, so I’ll add as much of his perspective as I can. Our toddler was sick through the weekend. I was up with him one night from 12:15-2:45, and off and on the next night. I probably got 10-12 hours of broken sleep the whole weekend."

"Yesterday, my husband mentioned he was starting to feel a little sick. Last night I went to bed early hoping to catch up on rest. All throughout the night, my husband woke me up way more often than my toddler ever does, even on a bad night. Some of the times were not directly his fault, but other times I felt like he was being inconsiderate."

However, what should have been a restful night turned into another exhausting ordeal except this time, her husband was the cause.

"1: He snored loudly in my ear. 2: He asked for another blanket because he had the chills. I told him it was at the foot of the bed. He asked for help and reminded me that he helps me when I’m sick, and that he’d still do the morning routine with our son. 3: He had a nightmare I had to shake him awake from. (normal) 4: He whispered at Alexa to ask for the time. 5: He asked for another blanket. I gave him mine. 6: He made a phone call (in bed) and left a full volume voicemail to his work to let them know he’d need to take a sick day. 7: At 5:30 in the morning, he woke me to ask if I could do the wake up routine with our son. (I do bedtime, he does wake up.)"

At this point, OP snapped. She was furious that after an already sleep-deprived weekend, her husband had kept her up all night and then expected her to take over his responsibilities.

"At this point I blew up. I expressed how mad I was that he woke me up all night long, and now I have to wake up early to do what he said he’d still do, and I don’t get to stay home and catch up on sleep. He said I was in the wrong because marriage is in sickness and in health. I immediately got up to get ready. He said I didn’t have to start getting ready so early, I said yes I did because I start work at 7:30. I barely make it to work on time when I wake up at 6:00, and now I have to unexpectedly skip my shower, get my toddler ready, get his food ready for the day, feed him breakfast, drop him off at daycare, then take myself to work."

"I said he was a grown man with a cold, and he robbed me of the rest I needed, and that I’ll be sleeping on the couch tonight. At that point I asked for space and we haven’t talked since. I was late for work which is a big deal at my job. I might be the asshole for blowing up at my husband when he asked for support during an unexpected illness. Am I the asshole for being mad at my sick husband?"

Internet sides with wife after husband disrupts her sleep

Redditors overwhelmingly ruled NTA and criticized OP’s husband for his behavior.

One user wrote, "NTA- It’s one thing if you slept all night and he was up all night sick and he woke you up and asked you to handle the morning routine. It’s another when he’s willfully kept you awake. Waking you up for extra blankets, asking the time and making a loud phone call is absolutely willful behavior from him. Your angry feelings are valid. If this is a one time thing, when he’s better, circle back and have a discussion. If this is his typical “man flu/cold” behavior, he needs to stop it. Sleep deprivation is cruel."

Another added, "NTA 100%.. How do you wake someone up to get a blanket (at the foot of the bed!?) and start making phone calls in bed when someone is sleeping? I mean that is just rude! If he doesn't know where the blankets are in the home, why? does he not live there?"

Another user commented, "NTA, his actions caused her to be late for work which is a big deal at where she works. He's a really inconsiderate person."

"NTA - it sounds like you're being pushed to your very limits, and sleep deprivation makes anyone cranky. I'm wondering, though, where was he all weekend, night after night, while you were taking care of your child? He was overly inconsiderate and needy when he was sick in bed, but you may have been more sympathetic if you weren't so drained from the past few nights," a user said.

Another wrote, "Agreed. He put on this pageantry on purpose, because woe is him, the germs broke down his totally strong immune system and invaded his body. It's a cold, OOP's husband. Dose it with DayQuil/NyQuil and get over it, or if it's so serious that you can't find blankets at the -checks notes- foot of the bed, go to the ER and have them tell you the same damn thing. NTA OP."

This article contains remarks made on the Internet by individual people and organizations. MEAWW cannot confirm them independently and does not support claims or opinions being made online.