AITA: Parents call son ‘ungrateful’ after he refuses to let them move into new house he bought

The relationship between parents and a child seems to change with time. When parents grow older they seem to prefer staying with their kids and many times it is a better decision. However, at times, children seek their personal space and do not like to share their privacy with their parents.

Recently, a man on Reddit's popular "Am I the A*****e" forum shared an incident where his parents called him "ungrateful" after he refused to let them move into the new house that he had bought.

Man refuses to let parents move into new house

The man wrote on the AITA forum that he is 34 years old and bought his first home after years of hard work and saving. He stated that it is a modest but beautiful house in a quiet neighborhood, and he is incredibly proud of achieving this milestone.

He went on to explain that his parents (both in their late 60s) currently live in a rented apartment, and while they’re not struggling financially, they’ve expressed concerns about retirement and wanting a more stable living arrangement.

The man mentioned, "After I announced my house purchase, they approached me with the idea of moving in with me. They said it would give them a chance to downsize, save money, and spend more time with me."

He added, "While I love my parents and respect everything they’ve done for me, I was honest and told them that I wanted this house to be my personal space. I’ve lived with them most of my life, and I was looking forward to having my independence."

The man then wrote that they didn’t take it well and accused him of being ungrateful, reminding him that they sacrificed a lot to support him through college and early adulthood.

He added that they even suggested that he owe it to them to give back now that he is in a better financial position. The man further stated that some extended family members also chimed in, saying he should "honor" his parents by letting them live with him.

The man continued, "I tried explaining that while I’m happy to help them in other ways, like assisting with rent or finding a better place for them, I’m not ready to share my home. It’s not about them personally; it’s about finally having a space that’s mine. Despite this, they continue to pressure me, and now I’m starting to feel like I might actually be selfish for saying no."

The man concluded the post and wrote, "So, AITA for refusing to let my parents move into my new house?"

Internet sides with Redditor who refused to let parents move into his new home

People on the internet sided with the man who made the post on Reddit's AITA forum and explained that he refused to let his parents move into the new house that he bought.

A person commented on the post, "NTA, you’re allowed to have boundaries. helping them financially is more than enough. you don’t owe anyone your independence just because they’re family."

Another user wrote, "Nta the minute you allow them into your home they will try to go back to the parent/child relationship and try to control every aspect and have no respect for you."

A person also commented, "NTA, your house, your rules. you’re allowed to have boundaries even with family. helping them financially is already generous, they shouldn’t guilt trip you into giving up your independence."

Whereas, a user added, "Nta you have every right to have your own space. Because let me tell you once you start helping them their entitlement will reach new highs. Just you watch. Seen it time and time again."

Another person said, "If you allow them to move in, the house will become theirs. They will never leave. You will be reliving your childhood all over again. You will loose control of what you worked so hard for. NTA."

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