'AITA for refusing to take care of my 'sick' boyfriend after he visits bar and tattoo parlor with pals?'

A woman turned to Reddit to seek advice after her boyfriend, a guy with not one but two infections, somehow managed to turn his "sickness" into an excuse to hit the movies, bars, and even a tattoo parlor with his friends. His girlfriend, however, was not buying it anymore.

The embattled Original Poster (OP) took to Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum with a thread titled, "AITA for stopping taking care of my sick boyfriend?"

OP wonders if she should care for 'sick' boyfriend after his day out with friends

OP laid it all out. Her 26-year-old boyfriend had been feeling under the weather. Like any caring girlfriend, she went full Florence Nightingale—checking in on him, encouraging him to take time off work, and even offering to take care of him when she got home from work.

"I felt so bad for him, took care of him to the best of my ability, and have really been sweet to him," she wrote. "I told him to take off work to go to the doctor, so he goes and they say he has a sinus infection and upper respiratory infection and prescribe him 5 different things. We’re on the phone while I’m at work and he’s asking me what he should and shouldn’t get, I felt so bad for him and told him I’d come home and take care of him."

After a doctor diagnosed him with a sinus and upper respiratory infection and prescribed a pharmacy’s worth of meds, OP thought he’d go home to rest. But the man decided it was the perfect time for a day out.

"Well, he then leaves the doctor and goes to the movies with a friend and then goes to the bar, and his friend got so drunk he had to carry him out of the bar and take him home. Then while he’s out doing this, sends me a screenshot of concert tickets for a concert he wanted to go to that night," she revealed.

When OP called and told him to bring his infectious self home, he finally did. "I call him and tell him to come home. He comes home, I ask how the f**k he’s had so much energy to do more with 2 infections in 12 hours than I’ve done all year, he said the medicine made him feel better."

It gets better (or worse?). That same night, he went to work and texted OP nonstop about how miserable he felt — before doing the unthinkable.

"That night, he goes to work and is texting me telling me how bad he feels and how he should have stayed home from work. Gets off work, and goes out and gets two tattoos with his friends. Goes into work the next day, still texting me complaining about how bad he feels, now he is off work and went to his friend's house," she spilled.

By now, OP had had it.

"I don’t feel bad anymore, it’s like he wants me to continue babying him like always but I can’t feel bad for someone who acts this way. I don’t think he’s faking being sick because I can tell there is something wrong, but am I wrong for not wanting to take care of him anymore or really be nice about it at all?" she asked, adding, "If he genuinely felt that bad he wouldn’t be able to run around the world doing all this like nothings wrong. He’s always out doing all kinds of stuff with his friends, but he usually isn’t so sick."

Reddit's verdict

Reddit wasted no time crowning OP as 'Not The A**hole (NTA)' while roasting her boyfriend like a Thanksgiving turkey.

"NTA - even if the medicine did make him feel better, he made poor choices. He’s a grownup and can take care of himself. Also … am jealous. Sitting here with an ear infection, sinus infection, and chest infection,n and nothing the doctor gave me made me feel THAT good," one posted.

Another noticed a bigger issue: "What I find interesting is that he doesn’t seem to be spending any time with you. He pops off to work (complaining bitterly about how dire he feels) then proceeds to go out with everyone and anyone who isn’t you, has a fabulous time then rinses and repeats. I think your bigger problem is why he’s gallivanting around while expecting you to wait on him hand a foot when he gets back. NTA."

"I would love to know what meds the dr gave him that made him feel that good in such a short amount of time," someone else chimed in. "I call BS. He may have a small little something, but the rest is definitely fake. If you can go out (wherever), then you can work."

"NTA. He's trying to sabotage your career and make you be his mommy. Take a hard look at what you like about this relationship before proceeding," a comment read.

"NTA.  He's making dumb*** decisions.  I'm getting over a respiratory infection and none of the medicine I took made me feel well enough to do anything like going out and getting drunk or getting a tattoo.  He doesn't need you to take care of him.  He needs to make smarter decisions which is solely up to him," another offered.

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