Jennifer Lopez opens up about healing after Ben Affleck divorce: ‘Nobody to blame but yourself’

Jennifer Lopez shared that she built her dream home and bought horses for her children, hoping they would spend more time at home
Jennifer Lopez said the past five years were tumultuous, while the last two years have been a healing period that helped her better understand herself (Getty Images)
Jennifer Lopez said the past five years were tumultuous, while the last two years have been a healing period that helped her better understand herself (Getty Images)

LOS ANGELES, CALIFORNIA: Jennifer Lopez emphasized the importance of self-reflection as she opened up about her life after divorcing Ben Affleck. The singer and the actor, 53, married in 2022 but called it quits in 2024.

Jennifer Lopez reflects on turbulent five years

During the Monday, June 15, episode of the ‘SmartLess’ podcast, Lopez spoke with hosts Will Arnett, Jason Bateman, and Sean Hayes, sharing, “I built my little corner of the world dream house, I got my kids some horses, we have stables. I was like, 'Please come home, please come back home to your horses. There's horses here’.”

Jennifer Lopez is seen on the set of
Jennifer Lopez is seen on the set of 'The Last Mrs Parrish' on October 10, 2025 in New York City (XNY/Star Max/GC Images)

The ‘Office Romance’ star then went on to shed light on her life in recent years.

“The past 20 years, it's been one thing, the past five years has been a tumult, and then the last two years has been kind of the healing process from that tumult where I really got to know myself,” she mentioned.

Jennifer Lopez says she's finally happy

Lopez noted that she is very different from who she was “two years ago, it's crazy. And now I can really look at my life, appreciate it for what it is and what I've created for myself and be really happy.”

The 56-year-old A-lister also revealed on the podcast that there were times when she felt “like my life blew up in my own face.”

NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 2: Jennifer Lopez is seen on June 2, 2026 in New York City. (Photo by XNY/Star Max/GC Images)
Jennifer Lopez is seen on June 2, 2026 in New York City (XNY/Star Max/GC Images)

“It was because of the choices I made, but also because of the fact that I had things that needed to change about myself that I didn't understand or recognize that were attracting certain things and attracting a certain type of experience into my life. So, I want to give myself that credit too, but there comes a point where it's all so puzzling and wrong where you have to sit there,” she explained.

Jennifer Lopez reflects on Ben Affleck divorce

The ‘The Boy Next Door’ actress then reflected on her experience following the Affleck divorce and how she moved forward.

She told the hosts, “And after my last divorce, I just sat there and I was like, I canceled my tour and I sat there and I was just like, 'You need to figure yourself out. What is going on with you? Forget about everybody else. There's nobody to blame here except yourself, in a certain way.'”

LONDON, ENGLAND - JUNE 03: Jennifer Lopez attends the 'Office Romance' Netflix UK Premiere on June 03, 2026 in London, England. (Photo by Antony Jones/Getty Images for Netflix)
Jennifer Lopez attends the 'Office Romance' Netflix UK Premiere on June 03, 2026 in London, England (Antony Jones/Getty Images for Netflix)

Lopez further added that “not that people don't behave in a way that's not great, but [I asked myself] 'What are you doing? What do you have going on?’ And that was that was a turning point for me. That was a couple of years ago now.”

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