‘AITA for asking mother-in-law to leave after she made incredibly cruel comments about my infertility?’
Redditors are backing a woman after she asked her mother-in-law to leave her house for making “incredibly cruel and heartless” comments about her infertility.
The woman, with the username Infamous_Rate_4322, shared her story on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A*****e' (AITA) section, where she disclosed her struggles with infertility.
“My husband (36M) and I (34F) have been married for five years and TTC for four. It's been an emotional rollercoaster, filled with doctor's appointments, treatments, and constant disappointment," she wrote.
“Recently, we received news from my doctor that our chances of conceiving are extremely slim,” she revealed.
Redditor's husband supports his mother instead of taking her side
The Redditor continued that though the news had been painful for her, her 59-year-old mother-in-law “doesn’t seem to understand. She’s been overly involved in our fertility struggles, offering unsolicited advice and constantly pressuring us.”
As if this wasn't enough, the mother-in-law even told the woman and her husband that “maybe it’s God’s way of telling you you’re not meant to be parents".
But instead of confronting his mother over such painful comments, the woman’s husband ignored it saying it was “her way of coping".
The OP then mentioned in her post that a few days back, her mother-in-law came to their house for dinner and made another insensitive comment toward her.
She told the OP, “You’re lucky you don’t have kids. Pregnancies ruin women’s bodies—at least now you’ll stay fit.”
OP's husband accuses her of 'overreacting' after she confronts mother-in-law
Though her mother-in-law seemed unbothered, the woman found this statement “incredibly cruel and heartless".
“I didn’t want to start an argument in front of my husband, so I quietly told her that her comments were hurtful and that I needed her to leave. She seemed taken aback, but she left without much protest,” she shared.
The woman, however, lamented that her husband did not understand her and accused her of overreacting.
“Now, there’s tension between us, and he wants me to apologize to her, but I’m standing my ground. So, am I the a**hole for kicking my MIL out of our home after her comments about my infertility?” the OP concluded her post.
Redditors back OP, claim she has a 'husband problem'
People on Reddit backed the OP in the comment section with one user saying, “NTA - she’s clearly quite insensitive. Also a bit weird to get so involved in your son’s fertility struggle but okay.”
Another Redditor wrote, “NTA, your MIL seems like a heartless b***h and if anyone should apologize it's definitely her. Your husband seems like he sucks too for siding with his mother over you.”
The third one commented, “Nta. But you have a husband problem.”
“NTA but if this is real you have a husband problem not a MIL issue while yeah she's the starter of the issue your husband is the problem by not backing you and making you keep the peace when she's getting away with being a snarky b***h that's the real issue and you need to stand up for yourself,” a comment read.
Another comment read, “This is the universe telling you that your man and his mommy are not the right family for your future child.”
“NTA. MIL shouldn't have access to so much of you and your husband's business. She has NO right to even have an opinion. Don't apologize. Go very low contact. Learn to grey rock. Tell husband that you want to go to couples counseling,” an individual added.
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