'AITA for ending my relationship with my BF because I refused to compromise on not wanting children?'

A 21-year-old woman, known as Artistic-Share-2692 on Reddit, recently turned to the popular AITA subreddit to ask if she was wrong for ending her relationship with her boyfriend over a disagreement about having children.

The woman explained that she and her now ex-boyfriend, 27, had been dating for nine months and both served in the Army. Their relationship began as a friendship, but after getting closer, they started dating.

Woman ends relationship after refusing to compromise on not wanting children

From the very beginning, she made it clear that she didn’t want children and would not change her mind. However, her boyfriend expressed a desire to have kids "maybe in the next five years or so." He seemed to believe that she would eventually change her stance, but she remained firm in her decision.

The situation escalated when he asked if they would ever get married. She responded, "One day, he asked if we’d ever get married, and I said, 'No, because we want different things.'"

Her boyfriend then insisted that if she truly loved him, she would compromise on her stance about having children, arguing that "plans can change."

The OP explained, "He got mad and said that if I truly loved him, I would compromise and have kids, insisting that plans can change."

This led to a heated argument, which ended with the woman telling him they were done. Afterward, he blocked her, calling her an "a**hole." In her post, she questioned whether she was wrong for standing by her decision. "Should I have made that compromise?" she asked.

Reddit community backs woman for standing firm on not wanting children

The Reddit community overwhelmingly supported her decision, with many pointing out that relationships should be based on mutual respect for each other's values and boundaries.

Several commenters noted that it was unfair for her boyfriend to pressure her into changing her deeply held views on having children.

A user said, "There are many things in relationships that you can compromise on. Wanting children is not one of them. NTA."

Another added, "NTA. You'd have been an a**hole NOT to break up. Kids should never be a "compromise." One of you will be unhappy for the rest of your life!"

The third commentator remarked, "NTA. You both want two different things so it's better to end the relationship now."

"NTA. Your ex has a very interesting personal definition of what a compromise is. You did the right thing and saved both of you time and future heartache," said one supporting the OP.

A person stated, "NTA. It’s your life and you get to decide what YOU want it to look like. If you ever change your mind, it should be because you changed your mind not because someone wants, expects or is pressuring you to."

Other chimed in, "NTA. It's not a puppy. It's a tiny freaking human, and you're allowed to not want to make one."

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