'AITA for ignoring my girlfriend after she took her male coworker to a wrestling event instead of me?'

Say you and your partner have a shared passion, something that brings you closer. You assume you’ll enjoy it together, only to find out they went with someone else—and lied about it.

That’s exactly what happened to one man who took to Reddit’s famous 'Am I The A*****e' forum, desperate to figure out if he was overreacting or if his girlfriend had crossed a serious line.

OP's girlfriend took another guy to a wrestling event and didn’t tell him

The original poster (OP) kicked things off with a post titled: "AITA for not talking to my girlfriend because she took her male coworker to a wrestling event instead of me?"

OP explained that he (39M) and his girlfriend (36F) had been together for ten months, and while they were pretty different, one thing they both loved was wrestling. They had even been to a live event together before (just a small local one, but it was their thing). So when AEW (All Elite Wrestling) came to their city of Cincinnati, OP was hyped.

"I was super excited and mentioned multiple times how much I wanted to go," he wrote. "My girlfriend never really said much about it, so I assumed we’d just watch it on TV like we usually do."

But then, the bombshell dropped.

"Well, turns out she did buy tickets—two of them," OP revealed. "But instead of inviting me, she took her male coworker. I only found out because she casually mentioned it a few days later and kinda stopped halfway through cos she realized she messed up. I was confused and after a half-hearted denial, she told me she had gotten tickets and gone with her coworker."

Naturally, OP was upset. When he asked why she didn’t invite him, she shrugged and said: "Well, he’s a huge fan too, and I figured you’d be fine watching from home."

OP told her it hurt that she didn’t even consider taking him, but she brushed it off. "When I told her it hurt that she didn’t even consider inviting me, she said I was overreacting and that she’s allowed to have friends. I asked why she’d hid it from me (she said she was going to see her dad) and her reasoning was that she knew I’d be annoyed," he continued.

At this point, OP had enough. He told her he needed space and stopped talking to her. Now, she’s calling him childish and insisting it’s not a big deal.

"But to me, it is a big deal and I feel like she deliberately excluded me from something we both love and chose another guy instead," he explained. "I’m also worried there’s something going on with this guy because why the hell would she keep it from me? I don’t drink and this guy does so maybe she finds me boring, she denied that though."

Now, OP was torn. He didn’t want to lose his girlfriend, but maybe she wasn’t worth holding onto if she was hiding things and lying. "AITA for not talking to her? I’m worried that she’ll leave cos I really love her, but if there is something going on then I guess it’s probably for the best. I’m so angry and hurt, and I just can’t fathom why she’d lie," he concluded.

Redditors weigh in on the OP's situation

Top commenters on Reddit chimed in with various takes, but they were not on the girlfriend’s side.

"NTA. So she bought tickets for an event she knew you'd love; took SOME OTHER GUY to it, and then LIED ABOUT WHAT SHE WAS DOING so you wouldn't know. And when she's caught out, she sneers that you're being 'childish' and 'it's not a big deal.' How is this even a question? Dump her," one responded.

"NTA, she went on a date with another guy to an event she KNEW you'd enjoy and didn't even think to ask you if it wasn't a date why couldn't you have gone too??" another wondered.

"Dude...Your girl went on a date with another guy and you're worried about if you're the a*****e. Buddy do yourself a favor and move on," someone else insisted.

"NTA. But she has moved on from you without bothering to tell you. This is not the first time she has lied to you or the first time out with another guy. By saying you are childish, she is gaslighting. She wants you to feel guilty for calling her out on her behavior. Dont let her. The ticket was her way to get closer to her male coworker. Hopefully, it wasn't your money that paid for the ticket," read a comment.

"NTA but the silent treatment is not doing you any favours. I would just cut your losses here. She doesn't seem as invested in this relationship either," another chimed in.

OP shares an update on the issue

The OP posted an update to let everyone know how things turned out. "Not going too much into this cos I can’t be bothered dwelling, but yeah, it’s done. She’s more upset than I thought tbf which is a little confusing but yeah, whatever. Thanks for the constructive responses, and all the 'simp' nonsense—well haha, grow up," he wrote.

"I’ve come out of an 11-year marriage (which ended amicably, another concept probably alien to little fart misogynists on here), and it’s harder to admit you’ve failed again," he added. "Keep being permanently online weirdos. That’s me done with this whole thing, again thanks for the tonnes of constructive responses and people who’ve taken the time to message, it’s greatly appreciated."

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