'AITA for involving my husband’s family after he engaged in unsafe behavior around our baby?'
A Reddit user, going by the name throwawayparent0x0, took to the r/AmItheA**hole (AITA) subreddit to share a troubling situation involving her 10-week-old baby and her husband’s risky behavior.
According to the Original Poster (OP), her husband, who "adored" his baby, frequently engages in unsafe actions despite her concerns, causing her significant stress.
OP seeks family intervention after husband's unsafe behaviors around their baby
The OP explained, "Husband (28M) absolutely adores him and wants to spend every available moment with him," but added that his actions have raised alarms.
She gave examples of his unsafe behavior and said, "he enganges in unsafe behaviors like falling asleep on the couch while baby is contact napping, leaving baby on the playmat unattended while the dog is in the room or putting baby for a day nap with his bib still on."
In the post, she mentions her husband’s dismissive attitude toward her concerns, saying, "Husband claims I'm too anxious, making a big deal out of nothing - baby can't roll yet and the dog won't hurt him, he holds baby firmly while sleeping etc."
Despite her husband's reassurances, she feels that the safety risks are significant and admitted that her anxiety makes her react more forcefully, which further escalates the situation.
After becoming fed up, the OP sought help from her mother-in-law (MIL) and sister-in-law (SIL), asking them to intervene. "They took my side and ripped him a new one," she wrote.
However, her husband is now angry, feeling embarrassed by what he calls a "whole intervention," and feels like the incident made him seem like a bad father.
Reddit users overwhelmingly support OP
As soon as Reddit users read the post, many immediately rallied behind the OP, recognizing her concerns as valid and criticizing her husband's behavior.
A user said, "Once again, women having to do all the mental labor because a man is just too proud/easily injured/emotional to take her word for something. They are ridiculous."
Another added, "Unfortunately this is the only way. Until the dad is scared or wakes up he won’t listen to anyone"
One commentator remarked, "Nor should you, that's really dangerous. It's dangerous to leave babies and dogs unattended. It's dangerous to leave babies on a playmat unattended. Babies learn to scootch and move without warning. Your husband is putting your baby at unnecessary risk."
"The bad part comes because he’s more concerned with his own feelings than with his child’s safety," said one.
A person said, "NTA. The sleeping while holding baby one is a HUUUUGE potential safety issue, as is the dog. A safe baby is more important that hurt feelings. Honestly, the way this is going doesn’t bode well for the next 18 years. Good luck."
Someone else chimed in, "NTA. Your husband is an a**hole, sorry. I have first responders in my family and the horror stories I’ve heard about co-sleeping will chill your blood."
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