'AITA for not wanting my husband to attend his best friend's bachelor party while I'm 9 months pregnant?'

The internet sided with a woman who tried to dissuade her husband from attending his best friend's bachelor party when she was 37 weeks pregnant, per Someecards.

In a Reddit post, titled "AITA for not wanting my husband to go away for the weekend for his best friend’s bachelor party when I’m 37 weeks pregnant?", the Original Poster (OP) sought advice if she was wrong for not wanting her husband to "go to a bachelor party for 2-3 nights so close to my due date."

Woman doesn't want husband attending his BFF's bachelor party close to her due date

Taking to Reddit's AITA platform, the OP shared that her husband's best friend got engaged and he is "in the wedding party." The OP added, "He is not the best man, but is doing most of the planning for the bachelor party."

According to the OP, the husband's friends usually got together for a golf weekend. Moreover, because the other guys were already married, it was probably the group's final bachelor party.

However, the OP was expecting their second kid at the time, which was due on August 25. "When he started planning the bachelor party, I told him that planning something earlier in the summer would give him a higher chance of going for the full weekend," the OP said.

The OP shared that she made the mistake of framing her side of the story by saying: "I originally framed it as not wanting to be stuck watching our toddler by myself for a full weekend in my third trimester while he’s out golfing, which was a mistake."

"I should have framed it as not wanting him to go away for a weekend so close to my due date," she added.

They ultimately decided on a bachelor weekend date on August 8, when the OP would have been nearly "38 weeks pregnant and considered full term."

"So it’s about two weeks before my actual due date. The bachelor party will be in about two hours away (without traffic)," the OP shared.

The OP noted that it had been difficult to contact him on past golf weekends since he had been bad at keeping his phone charged. Moreover, he smokes and probably will smoke all weekend long but he doesn't drink.

According to the OP, her husband considered that it was "fine to go for the full weekend (2-3 nights)" as long as he finds someone to care for their kid while he's away.

The OP said, "This makes me incredibly nervous. I am willing to compromise and agree to an overnight plus a day of golf."

"I would also want him to keep his phone on and charged at all times, and ask that he stay sober in case I go into labor."

The OP noted that her husband seemed to believe that this was an "unreasonable compromise" when she first brought it up. "Since then, he is unwilling to discuss it until they have finalized the plans for the weekend," she said.

The OP added that she was of the "mindset" that this is one of the few occasions in their marriage where her "needs/wants/desires take priority over his, but that this is one of them."

Seeking advice, the OP asked, "AITA for not wanting him to go to a bachelor party for 2-3 nights so close to my due date?"

The OP gave an initial update after talking to her husband and shared a second update five months later. The husband was able to attend most of the bachelor party, and the OP "didn’t go into labor." "But it was a very stressful weekend due to other factors," she said.

Redditors support OP for not wanting her husband to leave her so close to due date

The online community flocked to the comment section to show their support for the OP as one noted, "NAH. I get that it's big ask, but his best friend is getting married and he's only going to be 2h away."

They added, "I think that as long as he keeps his phone charged and he stays sober enough to drive, it's not unreasonable that he wants to attend this event he planned. But I also get why you're nervous."

Another user added, "NTA. The comments here are just so, so frustrating. Yes, OP's husband will have to make the immense sacrifice of staying sober at a Bachelor party. Woe is him, how could he possibly survive?"

Another suggested, "Doctors can guess but are frequently wrong. Lots of women are told they’ll have their baby “any day now” at 36 weeks and go overdue. Or told there’s no way the baby is coming yet and go into labor within a week."

Another Redditor said, "First of all, your husband should not have chosen a date so close to your due date as one of the weekend choices. In the six months leading up to your due date this was the only weekend everyone could attend? What happened to May or June? Why can’t they choose a different date and you won’t have to go through this stress. NTA. That title is reserved for your husband."

"Husband is a phenomenal jerk. He was obviously determined to have his fun and didn’t care what happened to OP. He never appeared to even WANT to be with OP or his new baby," remarked one.

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