'AITA for planning to divorce my wife because she stopped taking care of her health?'

A good relationship is one where both the partners take care and motivate each other towards a healthy lifestyle. However, that is not the case always as many times one of the two partners tends to be the lazy one and that is what ends up affecting their bond.

Recently, a man on Reddit's popular "Am I the A*****e" forum shared an incident where he planned to divorce his wife because she stopped taking care of her health and opted for a lazy lifestyle.

Man notices changes in wife after three years of marriage

The 49-year-old man wrote on the AITA forum that his wife is 48 years old and they have been married for 23 years. He wrote that when he first met his wife in college, she was energetic, fun, and simply radiant.

He wrote, "Her love of life was infectious. We would go hiking, eat at restaurants, go to theme parks, take walks on beaches, and everything else. We both loved the outdoors."

He added that about three years after they got married, his wife started changing. He wrote that instead of going out, she began to become something like a "couch potato."

He mentioned, "She gained weight, started sleeping less, stopped cooking, and frankly became kind of a slob. I put up with this for years. I started cooking on most nights, and I had to hide vegetables in her food for her to eat them. I started doing the dishes every night because I knew she wouldn’t. When I went grocery shopping I abstained from buying my favorite unhealthy foods because I knew she would devour them within hours. I tried to encourage her to start taking care of her health."

He said that nothing changed and added that 10 years ago, he finally reached his breaking point. He wrote that he sat his wife down and gave her an ultimatum. "Start taking care of your health because if it falls apart, I’m not going to be here to take care of you," he told his wife.

He added that she was very upset with him and said, "In sickness and in health my a**" repeatedly, but he told her he didn’t care.

Man plans to divorce his wife after she stops taking care of her health

The man continued in the post that nothing changed. He stayed active, went jogging every day, and maintained a healthy weight. However, he added that over the past five years, his wife reached a point where she kind of disgusted him at times.

"It takes her five minutes or more to get up from her typical position of lying down on the sofa. She has started waddling hunched over. She’s 48 but she honestly looks 10 years older and acts 25 years old," the man wrote in the post.

He then mentioned that a month ago, he finally got her to go to the doctor and they found that she’s on the verge of type 2 diabetes, has a mild case of non-alcoholic fatty liver disease, and her blood pressure is concerningly high.

The Reddit user added, "Naturally, after receiving such news, on the way home from the hospital she swung by a fast food restaurant to get some food and a shake."

The person concluded the post and wrote, "The other day I sat her down and told her that I simply refuse to be a caretaker for someone who’s not even 50 yet. I told her I would be filing for divorce, but left how we do it (either through lawyers or through a cooperative splitting of assets) up to her. She’s absolutely furious with me, and my parents seem to be on her side. Am I really the asshole here?"

Internet backs the Reddit user who made the AITA post

Several internet users backed the Reddit user who made the AITA post that he planned to divorce his wife because she stopped taking care of her health and opted for a lazy lifestyle.

A user commented on the post, "NTA, she is giving no effort, so why should you. Everyone deserves to be happy. Clearly, she isn't and making bad choices and taking away your happiness. Life is short, and it moves quicker as you get older. Get your happy back."

Another person mentioned, "NTA, it’s not like you gave her a year, f*****g 10 years is too much for that kind of behavior, she was warned and still decided to continue with her lifestyle."

A user also added, "NTA 10 years to change plenty of time."

Another person commented, "NTA, but this went on way too long. I'd say severe depression for the last 20 years. Not sure what would cause it. Sounds like you guys never had kids. There is way more going on than meets the eyes. I assume, she never worked, outside the house. Sometimes, people need a reason to live a better life or just live..."

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