‘AITA for telling my brother-in-law to leave after he has been mooching off us for a year?’

A man’s frustration with his brother-in-law escalated after a tragic incident. Initially welcomed into the man's home to save money for his own place, the brother-in-law gradually showed little interest in moving out while also disregarding household rules.

The situation took a turn when the brother-in-law left the gate unlocked one night, leading to the death of the man’s dog. In his anger, the man told his brother-in-law to leave without consulting his wife, creating a tense and emotional family conflict.

Man explains how brother-in-law's actions left him 'furious'

In a Reddit post on the 'Am I the A**hole' forum shared by user DaoMingBaba, a man detailed the ongoing trouble caused by his brother-in-law, who repeatedly disrespected the household rules, leading to a tragic accident. 

The Redditor explained, "He moved in saying he just needed “a few months” until he was able to save enough money to rent his own place. It’s been a year, but he’s never once paid for bills, groceries, nothing." 

The man expressed growing frustration with his brother-in-law, who failed to do even basic chores, saying, "He doesn’t even do basic chores, but my wife (she's his brother) always tries to cover for him and does his chores for him instead. He leaves dishes in the sink, doesn’t take out the trash."

The Redditor went on to describe his brother-in-law’s daily habits, "Just sits around on his phone when he's at home to play mobile games or goes out on his motorcycle to go on long rides with his buddies. We’ve been biting our tongues because he’s family, but last week was the last straw." 

That breaking point came after a tragic incident: "He came home late, parked his bike, and didn’t lock the gate. As a result of his neglect, our dog of 12 years got out. We searched everywhere and even made Facebook posts, only to find out a few hours later that he got hit by a car just outside our subdivision."

The OP continued, "We were devastated and I was very furious. But guess who was the one acting pissed off?? My BIL. Saying it “wasn’t his fault” and that “s**t happens" and that he'd just buy us a new dog. LOL. He hasn't even contributed a single cent to our monthly electric or internet bills." 

The Redditor's frustration boiled over, and he explained, "I lost it. Told him to pack his stuff and get out. My wife thinks I was too harsh, but I honestly don’t care anymore. He doesn’t respect our home, our rules, or our damn dog."

The post ended with the man questioning his actions: "AITA for not considering my wife's feelings first? A part of me feels that we should've talked about it first, but then I acted on my own out of anger. AITA?"

Redditors back OP, slam his wife and brother-in-law

After learning about the man's hardships involving his wife's brother, which ultimately led to the death of his dog, several internet users came together to offer him support.

One user declared, "NTA and if my wife had a brother like that and kept covering for him we'd been in therapy or divorce, you need to be the priority not his stupid butt."

Another user slammed the man's wife, "Your wife is TA. And a huge one at that. She is disrespectful to you and your home. Her brother should not be her priority. Her husband should come first, especially in your home. She’s nuts!" 

The third user commented, "NTA if your wife doesn’t like it, she can leave with him. Take precautions so he knows he is never welcome in your home ever again."

One more person on Reddit commented, "NTA. He got your dog killed. And he is a mooch. While it would have been best to discuss with your wife first, you made the statement. It’s done. And hopefully your BIL will be gone. He has no excuse not to be fully ready to pay for his own place. Don't let him back." 

Another person called out the man's wife, "Your wife is part of the problem. Sorry about your dog. Nta."

The last person stated, "NTA If you hadn't put your foot down he would have stayed forever. If anything you should have booted him sooner but you were trying to help."

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