'AITA for telling my brother's fiancee he thinks her family looks like they come from a trailer park?'

A 29-year-old sought advice on Reddit after putting his brother's wedding in jeopardy.

The original poster (OP), under the username Sea-World-3617, explained on the platform's popular "AITAH" forum why he thinks his brother’s fiancee deserved to know the truth about his true feelings about her family. 

OP's brother thinks his fiancee's family members 'look like they came from a trailer park'

The OP began, "My (29M) brother (32M) is engaged to his fiancee (30F), and their wedding is in a few months. Everything was going fine until she mentioned wanting to invite her side of the family. My brother immediately shut it down, saying it would ‘ruin the wedding.’ She was devastated."

He explained that the family of his brother's fiancee belonged to a lower-income background and that she was the only one in her family who went to college and built a successful career.

"Our family is pretty well off, and my brother has always been obsessed with keeping up appearances. I thought he was just being shallow, but then I found out the real reason," the OP added.

He went on to mention that a few weeks ago he got to know that his brother thinks his fiancee's family is "embarrassing" and that they "look like they came from a trailer park."

"He even joked that her dad looks like he 'crawled out of a Walmart clearance bin.' I was disgusted," the OP noted.

OP's brother is furious about him telling his fiancee the true reason behind his reluctance to invite her family

When his brother's fiancee asked him why he was so against inviting her family, the OP tried to dodge the question, but when he saw that she was genuinely heartbroken, he finally told her the truth.

"She went silent, thanked me, and left," the OP shared.

Naturally, the matter got worse. "She confronted him, called him classist, and is considering calling off the wedding. My brother is furious and says I 'ruined his life’ by meddling. Our parents are on his side, saying I should have kept my mouth shut," the OP stated. 

"I feel like she had a right to know, but now I’m wondering—AITA for telling her?" the 29-year-old asked, concluding the post. 

Reddit users support the OP and praise him for revealing the truth

The Reddit community largely supported the OP's decision, emphasizing the fiancee's right to know her partner's true feelings about her family. 

One wrote, "Nah, you did the right thing. She deserved to know before marrying someone who looks down on her family. Your brother wasn’t just being shallow—he was straight-up cruel, and that’s a massive red flag. If he’s ashamed of them now, imagine how he’d treat them (and her) in the long run. He ruined his own life by saying those things, you just gave her the truth." 

Another commented, "NTA. Your brother is though. The things he said about his fiancée’s family are beyond disrespectful. It’s not just about the wedding, it’s about his character. He’s showing how little he values her and her family. She deserves someone who sees her for who she is and supports her, not someone who is embarrassed by her background. Honestly, you did the right thing telling her. She had every right to know what kind of person she’s marrying before it’s too late."

"NTA, surprised she wasn't considering calling off the wedding when he first said no to inviting her family to the wedding," a person added. 

One more remarked, "NTA. Your brother’s fiancee deserved to know the truth, especially since your brother was misleading her about significant aspects of his life. It’s better she found out now rather than later. Your brother’s reaction is understandable, but he brought this upon himself by not being honest."

"NTA. Your brother is and she has the right to know," read another comment. 

"NTA. If his relationship couldn’t survive the truth, then it wasn’t strong to begin with. Also, if he’s this ashamed of her family now, imagine how he’d treat them (and her) in the long run," one more opined. 

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