'AITA for telling my cheating wife that I deserve a holiday with my girl best pal for my mental health?'

Trust in a marriage is one of the most important things that strengthens the bond among a couple. However, once it is broken, it becomes tough for the couple to be the same way with their partner no matter how hard they try.

Recently, a man on Reddit's popular 'Am I the A*****e' (AITA) forum shared that he told his wife that he deserved a vacation with his girl best friend for the sake of his mental health after she cheated on him.

OP's wife admits she cheated on him

The 28-year-old Original Poster (OP) wrote in the AITA forum titled 'AITAH for telling my cheating wife that I deserve a vacation with my girl best friend?' that he and his wife have been married for more than two decades and have two children.

The man added that a couple of years ago, his wife admitted to cheating on him in a one-night stand. She said it was the worst mistake of her life and she regretted it a lot.

"Our marriage was going through a lot of difficulties at the time, and we were even seriously considering divorce. However; I never expected my wife to betray me like that," the man wrote.

The man continued, "My wife had a lot of remorse, and was willing to do anything for reconciliation. While I did almost file for divorce, I decided not to and to give our family a chance. And to be honest, it was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. Strangely enough, that incident which pushed our marriage to the brink also repaired our marriage."

He added that he still occasionally had days where he just felt heartbroken and betrayed, those days were rare because his wife did everything possible to show how much she loved him and his family.

The man then spoke about Vanessa, with whom he has been friends since they were in kindergarten. He wrote that Vanessa used to spend a lot of time over at his house, and became his adopted sister.

"Vanessa and I were really close and never once lost our friendship despite all the life changes we were going through. Vanessa was best woman at my wedding, I was man of honor at hers. My wife initially was insecure of the friendship because she thought from her 'woman senses' that Vanessa had feelings for me. However, after getting to know Vanessa, she realized that Vanessa was just my really close friend," the man wrote.

He added, "Now during the time my wife cheated on me, I did confide in Vanessa, and Vanessa recommended I take 3 weeks to take a breather, and then make my decision. That was a really great suggestion and saved my marriage. I told my wife about it, and my wife too was really grateful for Vanessa."

Man tells wife he is planning a vacation with his best friend Vanessa

Further in the post, the man wrote that last month, Vanessa reached out to him and asked if they could take a week-long trip to their hometown where they would just visit their favorite childhood places.

"It would be a road trip and we would just drive through the city, visit our high school, favorite parks, restaurants, etc. To be honest, this suggestion really excited me because I was feeling a bit empty since my kids left for college," the man wrote.

He added that he told his wife about it and expected some pushback. However, his wife was shocked and said this was a "romantic" trip he was taking with his girl best friend and she was worried something would happen during this trip especially because Vanessa was divorced.

The man mentioned, "I told my wife there’s nothing romantic about this trip, and it’s just a trip two friends are taking down memory lane. I told my wife I would have never even considered this trip if she hadn’t cheated on me 2 years ago, but she has to allow this now."

He concluded the post, "I need a mental health break, and I still occasionally get feelings for betrayal from what my wife did 2 years ago. After a lot of discussions, my wife ultimately did agree to it and I was really happy about it. Was I the AH?"

Internet shares mixed reactions to OP's AITA post

People on the internet stayed divided and had mixed reactions as a man on Reddit posted that he told his wife that he deserved a vacation with his girl best friend for his mental health after she had cheated on him a few years ago.

Some people commented that he should get a divorce from his wife while some mentioned that it was just an excuse for him to take revenge on his wife for cheating him.

A person commented on the post, "Telling me about revenge without actually telling me."

A user also wrote, "You should get a divorce. You clearly aren’t happy in your marriage."

A person also mentioned, "Probably better for everyone involved if you just got divorced."

A user also wrote, "I agree.. you making this an ‘you owe me’ thing takes all the innocence out of it. You’re literally framing it as you deserve to be with another woman, alone, on a week long adventure.. wtf you think she’s gonna think? YTA."

A person further wrote, "Children are 18? That's the divorce line, bro. Cut her loose."

Another user added, "YTA, your wife clearly said, doesn't want you to go this trip. Why don't you invite your wife to come with you?"

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