AITA: Internet asks man to divorce wife after he refuses money from her in exchange for giving up control
A strong relationship between a husband and wife depends on mutual trust and understanding. Without this foundation, the relationship can become strained, potentially leading to mental stress and depression for both partners in the future.
Recently, a man on Reddit's "Am I the A*****e" forum shared an incident where he revealed that he refused to accept his wife's money in exchange for giving up control.
Man sets status quo with wife for mental peace in marriage
The man posted on Reddit about being married for the second time, describing his current relationship as often toxic. His first wife died a few years ago, leaving him with two pre-teen daughters. He also has a one-year-old biological daughter with his current wife.
He continued, "The relationship around a year back became so toxic that I had pretty much made up my mind to file for a divorce from her. Her aggression was beyond control. However for sake of my three daughters and intervention from her brother, got me to stay put."
He added that her brother told him that her aggressive behavior is nothing new and that he would get involved only if she "unconditionally surrenders" to the situation.
The man then wrote, "Since that time I was completely running the household and supporting the entire family financially and otherwise, certain ground rules were established and agreed upon, where we would live well within our means, and she would obey the house rules."
He went on to mention that so far with the status quo maintained, they can live their lives through with much more peace than before.
Man reveals wife offered him money in exchange for giving up control
The man revealed that his wife feels unable to live this life where she has little control. She proposed to financially contribute to household affairs and to have more say in decision-making around the house.
He wrote, "I rejected her proposal by saying unless she is willing to contribute half, I will not want to accept her money but rather maintain the status quo as that gives me much more mental peace. I have told her if she is that unhappy with the new status quo arrangement which she herself agreed to in the first place, she is free to leave."
He also mentioned that his other fear is that if he agrees to her contributing a small part, firstly she will blow up the expenses and make overall life as miserable as before.
The man concluded the post and wrote, "AITAH for rejecting her offer?"
Internet sides with man for not accepting wife's money
People on the internet sided with the man and asked him to divorce his wife after he refused to accept her money in exchange for giving up control.
A Reddit user wrote, "NTA. But you really do just need to leave her. This isn’t an ideal situation, for you or your kids."
Another person added, "NTA. But this situation sounds miserable, maybe just consider divorcing her anyway."
A user also mentioned, "NTA but why are you with this unpleasant woman? How do your older daughters feel about her?"
A person commented, "Wow. NTA. I think its time to seperate and think about divorce. It sounds like a very unpleasant relationship to be in."
Another comment read, "NTA. But why are you staying in this relationship? You truly are not happy and you are not doing the girls any favors."
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