AITA: Internet backs man who says his cheating ex is furious over his decision to work less after divorce

Selecting what to fight for is one of the hardest decisions one has to make as an adult. The need to earn a living and the desire to spend precious time with family can be hard to balance at times. However, working long hours to support his family did not turn out well for one man.

The man revealed on Reddit how he had been working hard for a decade to give his family a great life before realizing his wife was unfaithful. The father eventually chose to cut back on his work hours following his divorce to spend more time with his children. This, however, caused some family strife.

Author revealed how his ex went 'nuts because she isn't getting what she thought she would'

Redditor Mean-Description7970 addressed the situation on Reddit's well-known 'Am I The A*****e" forum,' which received over 14,000 upvotes and more than 2500 comments.

In the Reddit post titled, "AITA for working less after my divorce even though it means my ex gets less child support?" the author wrote: "For the last ten years I have been working my a*s off to earn money so my family could enjoy an excellent standard of living. This was apparently the wrong thing to do since it led to my wife deciding that since I was never home she should b**g other dudes."

"When I work out of town I earn about $240,000 a year. Where I live child support for two kids is about $3,300 monthly. With that salary. Since my divorce I went to 50/50 custody and I work in town so I only earn $100,000 yearly. So my child support is actually only $800 a month," he continued.

The author further revealed that his ex-wife was upset that he was working fewer hours, which resulted in lower child support.

"My ex is going nuts because she isn't getting what she thought she would. My lawyer has tried explaining that child support is based on income and since I am not working crazy hours to make lots of money for vacations and a huge house I don't need I do not earn as much," he wrote.

He provided further details about the financial status by sharing more information about the child support amount.

The man concluded his post by writing: "She is telling everyone what an asshole I am for cutting back on my work to deprive my kids. That is bullshit. I have my kids half the time. And since I cannot be out of town I earn less. My kids have everything they need. AITA?"

Internet users express support for the man 

Social media users flocked to the comment section to show support for the man and called him an NTA (Not The A*****e) in this situation. One wrote, "NTA, your wife has to deal with the consequences of her actions.  Does your ex wife work? I feel that's a stupid question."

A second user wrote, "You're cutting your hours to be there for 50/50 custody and because it's 50/50 you don't need the extravagant lifestyle choices. You cut back hours to be there for your kids more and live a more normal standard of living. NTA. If you would've said you cut your hours strictly to avoid CS then YWB TA. But be forewarned. She could appeal it and go back to court and get a ruling on "assumed income" and tell them you cut your hours to avoid paying. So watch what you post and how you phrase it completely."

Another commented, "NTA. She wanted you to be more present for your kids. You are doing that. I don't understand why you have to pay child support at all if you have 50% custody."

One remarked, "NTA. You are now home where you are needed and should be. You have your kids half the time, which means they are in your life now. Do not destroy your mental health and family time for her. It's not like you stopped working. Are you in an area with a ridiculous cost of living? What is her income?"

"NTA. You’re cutting back to spend more time with your kids. That’s pretty admirable. Child support is for children….someone should remind every parent who is doing through custody arrangements," wrote one.

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