AITA: Internet backs woman asking if she’s ‘tearing family apart’ by not inviting toxic sister to wedding

Wedding planning is challenging not just because there are many options and it takes a long time, but also because it's very expensive. Most couples wish to celebrate their special day with their closest friends and family, except for this woman who decided not to invite her "toxic" sister to her special day which, obviously, did not sit well with her family.

The woman took to Reddit to share her horns-of-dilemma situation which "has caused a lot of drama in my family, with some members calling me petty and others saying I’m justified." She explained her decision over her sister with whom she has "never had a great relationship" while adding that she has been "second-guessing" herself because she does not "want to ruin family relationships."

Reddit user claims her sister 'has a habit of making everything about her'

Taking to Reddit's popular 'Am I The A**hole' forum, the woman (Warm_Mystic) explained her decision by writing: "My wedding is coming up in a few months, and I decided not to invite my sister."

She went on to explain the strife her decision caused in her family: "This has caused a lot of drama in my family, with some members calling me petty and others saying I’m justified," before adding words about her sister.

"Here’s the thing: my sister and I have never had a great relationship. She has a habit of making everything about her, and over the years, she’s caused a lot of hurt that I’ve just let slide for the sake of family peace. The final straw was about a year ago when I got engaged," she wrote.

The woman detailed how her sister made "several rude comments about" her fiance by writing: "Instead of being happy for me, she made several rude comments about my fiancé, calling him "boring" and "not good enough" for me. She even joked at a family dinner that he’d probably bail before the wedding. I brushed it off at the time, but it really stung, and my fiancé was visibly upset."

The author further revealed that she has distanced herself from her sister since the incident and "realized I didn’t want that negativity on what’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life." However, like any parents, her family was also not pleased with her decision. "My parents are furious and say I’m tearing the family apart, but I feel like I’m just setting boundaries for my own happiness," she wrote.

The woman wrapped up her lengthy dilemma by writing: "Now, some family members are saying I’m being immature and should "be the bigger person" by inviting her, while others say they understand why I’m not."

"I’m second-guessing myself because I don’t want to ruin family relationships, but I also feel like my wedding day should be a positive and supportive environment. So, AITA for not inviting her?"

Internet users call woman NTA for not inviting her 'toxic' sister

Redditors flooded the comment section, calling the woman NTA (Not The A*****e) as one wrote, "NTA. It’s your wedding, not a family therapy session. If she’s been toxic, you don’t owe her an invite just because she’s your sister."

Another user wrote, "NTA. It's your wedding!!! Your sister’s behavior was hurtful, and you deserve a positive, supportive day. Family may not understand, but your happiness comes first."

"NTA. Ask your parents why she can't be the bigger person. If anyone is "tearing the family apart" it is your sister. Shame on your parents, sister, and anyone not being supportive of you and your fiance," a user commented.

Another remarked, "Absolutely NTA. Given her history of causing trouble & spoiling days which are very important to you, you can't risk it. Your wedding day should be happy & stress free. You will need to have some friends to act as bouncers though. I certainly would expect that she may try to crash the wedding to cause a scene, so have people there ready to circumvent her if she tries!"

One noted, "NTA. You're not tearing the family apart, she is. Your parents should be mad at her. But she keeps getting away with it because her bad behavior is being enabled by your parents. They should be on your side. I'd go as far as saying you will not attend if she is. Being the bigger person means being doormat in many cases. There's a time and place for it, but your wedding definitely isn't it."

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