AITA: Sister claims she’s helping brother with his wedding plans but Internet calls her ‘overbearing’

A recent story on the popular Reddit forum r/AmItheA**hole ignited controversy when a 35-year-old woman recounted the strife involving her younger brother, 27, and her best friend, 31, amid their wedding preparations.

The Redditor, Aura_Ros, identifies herself as the person who arranged the blind date that sparked the couple's successful relationship. Although the original poster has consistently supported the couple, her participation in their wedding planning appears to have had unintended consequences.

Sister's help for brother's wedding sparks heated confrontation

The trouble began when the OP, who was serving as the maid of honor, took it upon herself to help the couple with the wedding details, assuming her experience as a married woman would be valuable.

"I was doing them a favour by helping them chose things like the venue, color palettes, suits, etc.," she explained in her post.

However, her efforts were met with unexpected hostility when she voiced her opinion about the wedding menu. "I was talking to my friend about how in my view their menu wasn't one that would please most guests," she said.

This prompted an explosive reaction from her brother who accused her of overstepping her boundaries. "My brother exploded with me saying I was trying to control their wedding and that if they picked things it's because it mattered to them," OP shared.

Her brother's frustration intensified as he accused her of attempting to vicariously experience her own wedding through theirs.

The 35-year-old woman wrote, "He was really rude to me saying I'm trying to relive my wedding through theirs, and that of I continued being like that he would uninvite me to the wedding."

In her defense, she tried to justify her actions. "I got defensive and told him I was trying to make it the perfect day for him and that if wasn't for me he wouldn't even have someone to marry at this point."

Her remark, intended to express her support for their union, appeared to resonate deeply with her brother. As reported by Aura_Ros, this reaction led to a considerable rift. "I think that this hit him hard because he stopped talking to me about anything that wasn’t about my role as maid of honor," she explained.

Internet calls out OP for being overly controlling and crossing boundaries

Upon reading the OP's account, Reddit users expressed sympathy towards her brother and best friend, perceiving her actions as excessively controlling and detrimental to the couple's independence.

A user claimed, "YTA. Your brother is right and you are not being helpful. Not at all. This is none of your business."

Another added, "YTA - you stuck your nose in where it didn't belong. The bridal couple get to choose what they serve and everything else. Your opinion does/did not matter. And your comment about him having anyone to marry if it weren't for you? That was purely hurtful. No wonder they're not talking to you."

A third commentator remarked, "YTA. You had a wedding, stop trying to control theirs."

"Yes YTA. Why would you want to ruin your brother’s day just so you can look like some sort of hero for saving him?" one asked.

A person explained, "YTA. It is HIS AND HIS HUSBANDS wedding. Not yours. You can help but you need to do it with what THEY choses. The perfect day means what THEY want. Not what you want."

Other chimed in, "YTA, their wedding, and you seem to think you know better than them. Only offer opinions if asked, no more giving commentary on their choices."

One said, "YTA. Let me join the chorus. If you are well intentioned that would be one thing but your position seems to be that you know better. A wedding is a matter of the couple's taste not yours. Stop being overbearing. Ask them out and apologize. Ask them how you can help."

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