AITA: Woman’s family pressurizing her to change wedding date to accommodate sister’s wishes
A woman on Reddit has shared about a very bizarre situation she is facing because of her sister. The Reddit user, under the username pleasurebloop, began, “My fiancé (32M) and I (28F) have been planning our wedding for over a year.”
“We chose a date that’s significant to us it's the anniversary of our first date,” she mentioned in the Reddit’s 'Am I The A*****e' (AITA) subreddit section.
The woman also revealed that for her wedding, she had booked everything, from the venue to the caterer. She had even finalized their honeymoon destination.
Woman’s elder sister wants to get married on the same date
“We sent out save-the-dates months ago, and most of our family and friends have RSVP'd,” the Redditor noted.
However, things took an unpleasant turn when her 35-year-old elder sister announced her engagement with her long-time boyfriend.
The woman said, “I was thrilled for her and told her I couldn’t wait to help with wedding planning. However, she dropped a bombshell last week: she wants to get married on the same weekend as my wedding and asked me to move mine.”
She explained why her sister was particular about that date because “it falls on her boyfriend's parents' wedding anniversary; she thinks it would be ‘beautiful’ to share the date.”
However, when the Redditor refused to change her wedding date, saying, “It would be a logistical nightmare—not to mention costly to reschedule,” she was called selfish.
The woman claimed that even her parents were taking the side of their elder daughter. She wrote, “They say my sister’s relationship is ‘new and exciting’ and needs the extra support, while my fiancé and I have been together for years and ‘don’t need the spotlight.’”
Concluding her post, the woman added, “My best friend thinks my sister is being unreasonable, but my mom keeps calling me and saying that I’m creating unnecessary drama by refusing. So, AITAH for not changing my wedding date?”
Netizens call OP's sister’s wish ‘unacceptable’
People in the comment section supported the Reddit user with one commenting, “NTA please for the love of god if you know what’s good for you do NOT change that wedding date.”
Another Redditor wrote, “NTA, and it seems that your sister is the golden daughter. From my point of view, your sister could have offered you some kind of compensation, or could have adapted her wishes to yours, or could marry next year giving all the credits to her parents in law wedding anniversary.”
The third one said, “This is your once in a lifetime moment too! Is your sister their favorite? Absolutely do not change your wedding date. NTA.”
“NTA Don't change the date, and I would make sure to have passwords with all of the vendors because she may try to screw your wedding up,” an individual posted.
“NTA. Even if they were willing to pay for all the changes that this would result in I'd still say no. She chose your date after she knew. Unless she's dying or something that's completely unacceptable. I'd tell my mom to drop it or I'll drop her. If the date is so important to her she can do it next year,” the second one shared.
A comment read, “Call her bluff, let the trash take itself out. Tell sis she’s welcome to schedule her wedding anytime she wishes. You won’t be able to attend as you have a prior arrangement- aka your own wedding. Let her send out her invites, see how her attendees- especially those who already RSVPd- will react. If they go to hers- at least you know who can trust from now on.”
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