'Like a child seeking comfort': Body Language expert decodes JD Vance's ‘grief hug’ to Erika Kirk

Body language expert Judi James reveals JD Vance and Erika Kirk shared 'moment of emotional vulnerability' in their viral 'grief hug'
UPDATED NOV 1, 2025
Erika Kirk and Vice President JD Vance embrace at the Pavilion at Ole Miss on the campus of the University of Mississippi on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi (Brad Vest/Getty Images)
Erika Kirk and Vice President JD Vance embrace at the Pavilion at Ole Miss on the campus of the University of Mississippi on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi (Brad Vest/Getty Images)


OXFORD, MISSISSIPPI: Body language expert Judi James has described the on-stage embrace between Erika Kirk and JD Vance as a "grief hug", defending the pair from critics who called the interaction inappropriate.

The embrace happened after Erika Kirk gave her first public address at a Turning Point USA event at the University of Mississippi before introducing Vance.

Body language expert explains what the hug between Erika Kirk and JD Vance really meant

James said the exchange had "two facets or layers." The first was the conventional congratulatory sign-off when speakers change over on stage. 

Erika Kirk and U.S. Vice President JD Vance embrace at the Pavilion at Ole Miss on the campus of the University of Mississippi on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi. Thousands attended the Turning Point USA event to honor Kirk's husband, the late conservative activist Charlie Kirk. (Brad Vest/Getty Images)
Erika Kirk and U.S. Vice President JD Vance embrace at the Pavilion at Ole Miss on the campus of the University of Mississippi on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi. Thousands attended the Turning Point USA event to honor Kirk's husband, the late conservative activist Charlie Kirk. (Brad Vest/Getty Images)

She said, “Vance's arms are thrown out as he approaches Erika, which would be an intentional gesture to allow or mime a hug, but his hands are held out at an angle to display respect and congratulations for her speech.”  

James called it "traditional form of non-verbal applause between two speakers in a 'what can I say?' congratulatory approval gesture to her and the audience."

Judi James describes JD Vance and Erika Kirk's moment as ‘grief hug’

The second, more significant layer was the emotional component in what James referred to as a "grief hug." She explained that these hugs are  "traditionally more emotional and supportive or even mutually supportive than the normal perfunctory social greeting hug.”

James analyzed Erika Kirk's approach, saying that she came forward “with her arms held out higher for her hug, creating a moment of emotional vulnerability, almost like a child seeking a comfort hug." 

Erika Kirk, widow of Turning Point USA founder Charlie Kirk, and U.S. Vice President JD Vance embrace on stage during a Turning Point USA event at the Pavilion at Ole Miss at the University of Mississippi, on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi. The visit marks the first stop on the “This Is the Turning Point” campus tour, led by Kirk’s widow, Erika Kirk. (Jonathan Ernst-Pool/Getty Images)
Erika Kirk, widow of Turning Point USA founder Charlie Kirk, and U.S. Vice President JD Vance embrace on stage during a Turning Point USA event at the Pavilion at Ole Miss at the University of Mississippi, on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi. The visit marks the first stop on the “This Is the Turning Point” campus tour, led by Kirk’s widow, Erika Kirk (Jonathan Ernst-Pool/Getty Images)

She noticed where they had placed their hands, and said, "Vance's hands are placed on her back and hers on his shoulder blades.” 

James also said about Vance, "He performs a patting gesture of what looks like consolation, and they break quite quickly as she walks off and he turns his attention to the audience."

Emotional introduction marks Erika Kirk’s first public address as CEO of TPUSA

Erika Kirk, wife of the late conservative activist Charlie Kirk, walked on to the stage at the University of Mississippi on Wednesday, October 29 as her first Turning Point USA campus appearance since the assassination of her husband.

Erika Kirk, widow of Turning Point USA founder Charlie Kirk, speaks during a Turning Point USA event where U.S. Vice President JD Vance is expected, at the Pavilion at Ole Miss at the University of Mississippi, on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi. The visit marks the first stop on the “This Is the Turning Point” campus tour, led by Kirk’s widow, Erika Kirk. (Jonathan Ernst-Pool/Getty Images)
Erika Kirk, widow of Turning Point USA founder Charlie Kirk, speaks during a Turning Point USA event at the Pavilion at Ole Miss at the University of Mississippi, on October 29, 2025 in Oxford, Mississippi. The visit marks the first stop on the “This Is the Turning Point” campus tour, led by Kirk’s widow, Erika Kirk (Jonathan Ernst-Pool/Getty Images)

After speaking about how she lost her "best friend" when Charlie was killed, the mother of two introduced Vice President JD Vance to the stage. Erika, joined by Vance, wore a white T-shirt with the word “Freedom” printed on it. She paired it with black leather pants, while Vance opted for a sharp blue suit. 

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