Barack Obama admits he 'was in deep deficit’ with wife Michelle after presidency strained their marriage

Barack Obama shared that he’s been putting in the effort to repair the strain his two presidential terms placed on his marriage to Michelle
PUBLISHED APR 5, 2025
Barack Obama admits being in a ‘deep deficit’ with Michelle after eight years in the White House (@HamiltonCollege/X, Sarah Stier/Getty Images)
Barack Obama admits being in a ‘deep deficit’ with Michelle after eight years in the White House (@HamiltonCollege/X, Sarah Stier/Getty Images)

WASHINGTON, DC: In a recent chat with Hamilton College president Steven Tepper, former President Barack Obama​ dropped a surprisingly raw confession about his marriage to Michelle Obama.

Obama shared that he’s been putting in significant effort to repair the strain his two presidential terms placed on his marriage with Michelle. 

Barack Obama gets candid about rocky marriage years

“I was in a deep deficit with my wife,” Obama, now 63, admitted during the talk, according to the Daily Beast. “So I have been trying to dig myself out of that hole by doing occasionally fun things.” You can read the entire coversation here:

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Barack Obama admits he is trying to recover from ‘deep deficit’ with Michelle after presidency put their relationship under pressure (Barackobama.medium.com)

This isn’t the first time he's opened up about the personal toll the presidency took on his life. In a 2023 interview, Obama openly said that life in the White House put strain on their marriage and that stepping away from that pressure helped them begin to reconnect.

“It sure helps to be out of the White House and to have a little more time with her,” he said, adding that Michelle has been “forgiving” in ways many wouldn’t be.

Michelle Obama has never sugarcoated the truth about marriage. In fact, in late 2022, she stunned audiences by revealing on Revolt TV, she “couldn’t stand” her husband for nearly a decade when they were raising daughters Malia and Sasha and juggling intense career demands.

WASHINGTON, DC - FEBRUARY 12: Former U.S. President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama participate in the unveiling of their official portraits during a ceremony at the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery, on February 12, 2018 in Washington, DC. The portraits were commissioned by the Gallery, for Kehinde Wiley to create President Obama's portrait, and Amy Sherald that of Michelle Obama. (Photo by Mark Wilson/Getty Images)
Former President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama participate in the unveiling of their official portraits during a ceremony at the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery, on February 12, 2018 in Washington, DC (Mark Wilson/Getty Images)

“This isn’t being catty,” Michelle clarified, “It’s just real. Marriage isn’t 50/50 — ever, ever.” She explained, “There are times I’m 70, he’s 30. There are times he’s 60, (I’m) 40. But guess what? Ten years — we’ve been married 30 — I would take 10 bad years over 30. It’s just how you look at it.”

In an interview from April 2023, she candidly discussed her relationship, explaining that she chooses to be transparent about marriage “because marriage is hard, and a lot of young people quit on marriage over things that are just a part of the commitment.”

Married since October 1992, the Obamas have recently found themselves at the center of divorce speculation. The rumors began circulating in January after Obama was seen attending several high-profile political events alone, including former President Jimmy Carter’s funeral and President Trump’s inauguration.

Barack Obama’s honest admission about marriage to Michelle sparks intense online reactions

Barack Obama (L) greets former first lady Michelle Obama as he arrives to speak on stage during the second day of the Democratic National Convention at the United Center on August 20, 2024 in Chicago, Illinois. Delegates, politicians, and Democratic Party supporters are gathering in Chicago, as current Vice President Kamala Harris is named her party's presidential nominee. The DNC takes place from August 19-22. (Photo by Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images)
Barack Obama greets former first lady Michelle Obama as he arrives to speak on stage during the second day of the Democratic National Convention at the United Center on August 20, 2024 in Chicago, Illinois (Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images)

Barack Obama’s candid comments about the ups and downs of his marriage to Michelle Obama have stirred a wave of emotional and opinionated reactions across social media. The former president’s openness about the challenges they’ve faced especially during and after their time in the White House has sparked both admiration and criticism.

“I’m surprised any marriage can survive the White House. Mrs. Obama seems pretty well grounded, but on the dynamics of a long marriage, it’s incredibly challenging,” one person wrote.

Another shared admiration for their honesty and strength, “Good marriages don't quit when the journey gets tough. I and millions of others around the world admire Barack and Michelle. It's a damn shame when a decent family is despised for their decency.”

“I guess she doesn't appreciate what a privilege it is to be a First Lady,” one user remarked, while another speculated, “She has not been supportive of him in attending formal events with him for some time now... Storm clouds are gathering.”

“We knew all this already. So they had some slightly rocky years, so what. Anyone saying they are happy all the time is lying,” one person wrote.

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